I am having a really hard time with this whole ‘be true to yourself” thing. I was the oldest in a large family and while my parents were going through infidelity and divorce issues, I really took on the parental role in my family. Once I turned 18 however, i decided to leave home and made the conscious decision (i remember the exact day) to “live selfishly”. Fast forward 12 years of doing whatever i want without taking anyone else into account as far as making my own choices, doing my own thing etc. and i am in a relationship (my first real one, i might add) with an awesome man who makes me want to be a better person and i find myself resisting the hell out of it. The voices in my head tell me that, “No, you’re not a relationship person, do whatever you want, leave him and just do your own thing, you’re much happier alone anyway” and I can’t get it to stop. I am wracked with anxiety every time I see something that says “be true to yourself” because i know that myself is a selfish, lonely, bitter person and I don’t want to be!! I don’t want to throw away this relationship with the notion of being ‘true to my inner self” as I don’t want to be that selfish person anymore, but I am scared that that is my inner self. Help!