Do you ever get to a point when the silence is a place of peace and not something to be feared?

Yes, you do. You just have to courageously and persistently allow those silences to happen, no matter how uncomfortable it feels. Don’t try to run from it and fill every moment of every day with activities. When you master the ability to sit alone in silence, you’ll gain a lot of strength and confidence.

If you’ve been entangled with another person for a long time, it’s no wonder that cutting the ties will cause feelings of confusion and even panic. It is not Natalie-specific, but rather normal in such situations.

The thoughts can’t hurt you, so it’s OK to just let them come and go without trying to control them. After a while the silence can become your own private place of rest and rejuvenation. Just hang in there. It takes repeated efforts to become friends with silence.

This is one perfect answer……great

@ucwhavok, At the end of the day, it’s just silence. I know that it is scary to face, but there’s no need to make it more difficult by stoking up the fires of fear and seeing silence as something more than it actually is: just silence.

The trick is to not get too jumpy about the thoughts that come to your head while silent. They’re just thoughts. They come and then they go, if you allow them to go. If you grab onto the thoughts as if they were attacking you and start trying to control them, then it’s not silence anymore. It becomes a pointless battle.

No need for all the drama…