I completely agree about not trying to some super-hero guy. From a young age I learned to push myself to excel, to be perfect, but out of a misguided belief that it would get my father to pay attention to me and to be kind to me. This became an ingrained piece of my personality that I only recently could see it for what it was. So, here I am having so many positive attributes but no current relationship. That is when it all came to me that it isn’t about being the perfect this or the perfect that. It is about being authentic and being approachable and friendly. Some of that comes from loving ourselves and letting go of the negative things we tell ourselves. Only really thinking we are pretty wonderful lets us be wonderful to others and people love, love, love others that make them feel good. When I will get a boyfriend, who knows, but at least I feel good about myself.
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