I’m 27 and my boyfriend of 3 years is 37 – we’ve been living together for 2 years. We have a great relationship but are currently clashing over having children. He is worried about having children much later than 40 but I don’t know if I will want them then. I feel like we are in different places where he is ready to settle dDon and I am still working out what I want to do with my life. He wants me to say to him that by the time I’m 30 we will seriously start planning to have children but I have no idea how I’m going to feel in 2-3 years so how can I promise him this. to be fair to him when we first got together we did say we’d think about it around that time but when I was 24 it seemed a long way off. I didn’t also think I’d be held to it so literally.

I’ve never been particularly maternal but I always assumed I would have a child one day. i feel that we should be together and if we had just continued on it would have happened when it was the right time (probably around that time) but now I feel like I’m walking around with a ticking clock over my head and I’ve got to say….yes definitely this will happen in 2 years. I feel so pressured now that I can’t enjoy anything because I’m just waiting for time to run out and my life to change. I just don’t know how to live my life on a schedule & make a promise I don’t know for definite I can keep… but I don’t want to lose him, especially if we possibly would have ended up having kids at that time anyway.

I just want to know everyone’s opinion on this really. Am I being unreasonable? should I be able to say to him that this will definitely happen at a specific time?