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  • November 28, 2015 at 7:21 am #88461
    Anonymous
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    Dear Anne:

    Maybe in the future, a year from now, or so, you will see things clearly enough to figure out these things you are trying to figure out now. As is, you are not experiencing the mental clarity that you need, in my evaluation, to evaluate the situation correctly enough. Therefore an apology will be unbaked and not a good idea.

    I think you need TIME and distance from him to see clearly what is happening now (see it from a point in the future). If I was you and felt that I have to tell him something, I would say that I am confused and do not see things clearly and need the time and distance to see clearly.

    One thing that clouds your view is your own ambivalence about him, wanting him still as a boyfriend at times, that motivation still exists. You didn’t give up on him yet.

    anita

    November 28, 2015 at 7:41 am #88464
    Anne
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    Thank you so much for your thoughtful response, anita.

    I think you’re right on every point. Intellectually, I don’t want him as a boyfriend, but I must admit there is a very, VERY small part of me that still daydreams about what might happen in the future, particularly when I’m not enjoying my present very much!

    I need to appreciate what I have, focus on my own journey, and let everything else take shape as it will.

    Thank you again 🙂

    November 28, 2015 at 7:48 am #88465
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, Anne. When the present is not enjoyable, we do tend to daydream, fantasize about a better, enjoyable reality.

    Please post anytime.
    anita

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