Neither of you should be basing your relationship and/or life choices on the opinions or wants of your parents. Ultimately, if you both love eachother and have decided to spend your lives together, then it is YOUR decision to continue your relationship, not theirs. Our parents are around in our adult lives to offer guidance and support as needed – not to tell us what to do with our lives. On the other end, if he is willing to drop everything because his parents changed their mind, maybe it is time to reevaluate your relationship and see how well you truly know eachother.

Hi!
keep strong; ull definitely feel better as days go by. my story is somewhat similar to yours. our breakup happened two weeks ago. and like you, i met him at work, starting liking each other, he proposed, i accepted and we embarked on a beautiful relationship. i felt as if we were meant to be, that he was the one. i dreamt of our future together. everything was good until the day he told his parents about us.

his parents wanted to have our horoscope checked, and to my greatest disbelief, our horoscope did not match. without seeing me nor knowing me, his parents insisted that he should leave me. and that’s what he did. he told me he was not going against his parents and that we should quit then itself. i was shattered. i could not believe that a good relationship, where we both understood, trusted and loved each other, would just dissolve because of his parents and the stars.

well, i did some thinking during those two weeks and i realised, is it really worth to be with a guy who believes in the stars to make a relationship work. personally, i am not against horoscope matching, are relationships built upon the stars only or do they require work from both parties?

he was willing to let go of a good relationship where the stars didnt match, but maybe one day, he wont let go of an unhappy and unhealthy relationship where the stars do match.

i never asked him to go against his parents, but he could atleast try to convince them and try to reason with them. but this is not what he did. instead he agreed to leave me and accepted to go for an arranged marriage.

and what about the roles of the parents? indeed they are here for guidance and support, but imposing their wants and likes upon their children, is this right? definitely i would not want to be the daughter in law in such a house, where i have to suppress my own wishes and live according to the parents’ in law wishes.

i am still healing from this break up..but maybe in the long run, ill be happy about his decision.

Hey @strivingforsuccess ,

I just want you to know that all of us have the inner strength to overcome any obstacles as long as we believe that we can.

I was supposed to get married end November this year but I called off the entire engagement and wedding. It wasn’t because the love wasn’t there between both of us but it wasn’t deep and strong enough. It wasn’t the most pleasant scenario to have a fiance who allows his mother to run the show. It was the most painful and hardest decision of my life thus far but hey, better now than after marriage and kids right? 🙂

So, I’m healing. Taking this time to do the things I want to do. Read, pray, chant, eat, daze…anything. Basically, anything that makes you feel content and appreciate the present. Because, every second is going to be a past.

Sometimes, we don’t need to be happy all the time. We can learn to be neutral too. No happiness, no sadness. Just serenity and contentment at work. It feels nice. Sit with the pain, hurt, grieve…it is ok. It will guide you to be a more positive person. 🙂

姻缘是天定。有缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相逢。
Marriage fate is up to the heavenly decision. No distance can prevent the couple from being together. If a couple is not meant to be, they can be beside each other but never meet.

I believe in fate and destiny. So, while we wait for our paths to cross with our “The Ones”, let’s grow ourselves with all the positive vibes. Who knows, it may accelerate the process because we are too attractive. 😀

Cheers my dear. -huggs!-