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June 13, 2018 at 7:48 am #212343
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GuestDear Suki:
What if you left your family and your country- maybe it will be the first step to getting un-stuck, getting you out of that “loop of misery and codependency”?
anita
June 13, 2018 at 7:48 am #212345Anonymous
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June 13, 2018 at 8:59 am #212353Suki
ParticipantHi Anita
It is something I have considered, but I don’t really know how.
suki
June 13, 2018 at 10:24 am #212357Anonymous
GuestDear Suki:
When you considered it, what did you find difficult about it?
Did you do any research as to the how-to-do-it, and if you did, what did you find out?
anita
June 14, 2018 at 10:08 am #212483Suki
ParticipantHi
The most difficult part is the language barrier. I may speak English, but England is a hard country to find work in as a foreigner and the other countries in Europe generally demand that you speak their language. Finding work abroad is easier when in the country, but I don’t have to funds to just pack up and go.
/Suki
June 14, 2018 at 10:36 am #212485Anonymous
GuestDear Suki:
You wrote in your original post that you are “trapped and unhappy”, that your “life has no meaning”, that your family “used to be” your safety net, but is no longer that. “I just want out”, you wrote.
Out would be to no longer live with your family, with your brother and your parents. I suppose you can move elsewhere in your country, near the friends you mentioned, maybe.
It is a big move, to a whole other country and a difficult move especially when you don’t have the funds. Not to mention the difficulty in finding a job as a foreigner and the language problem. Maybe making a move in your country, away from your family is a step in the right direction.
anita
June 15, 2018 at 5:02 am #212569Suki
ParticipantI can’t afford to move. Work is hard to find.
June 15, 2018 at 5:12 am #212573Anonymous
GuestDear Suki:
Then you are stuck, at this point. Will you elaborate on your brother’s mental issues: what are they and how was he recently violent with you, what did he do to you?
Will you share more about your relationship with your parents?
anita
June 18, 2018 at 5:47 am #212877Suki
ParticipantIndeed I am stuck. The relationship with my parents are neither good nor bad. It used to be good, but now Im tired.
June 18, 2018 at 6:37 am #212891Anonymous
GuestDear Suki:
I hope you rest. And when you are rested, if you would like, you are welcome to share more, maybe answer my questions in my last post to you. I hope to read from you again.
anita
June 18, 2018 at 3:42 pm #212643dreamfool
ParticipantHi Suki,
I would like to send you some warmth over cyberspace. I see you are feeling hopeless, lonely, unsupported, unjust, painful and sad. There is no simple or quick answer to change your situation, but I feel you can use some help in getting empathy for yourself. I want you to know that many people struggled with their own families, and the effects of that, their whole lives. It is great for you to be aware of what is happening now, and want to choose a different life for yourself. It will not be easy, but wanting it and choosing it is the first step.
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