If she’s talking about her future, and you’re not in it, how much faith should you really have in this relationship?

As for bending to make her love you, and her habit of bringing up your old missteps to hurt you, it just sounds like bad news. Free yourself. This isn’t the right one for you.

Olivia,

Our stories are very different but in so many ways, I am right where you are. I have decided to leave a struggling relationship after almost 8 years. It is one of the hardest things I have ever done, but probably in the scheme of my life-the healthiest. I have found on this journey that you can love someone and still not be right or even healthy for them (yet addicted and codependent to their energies). People grow and change and if trust and respect are not in the cards,there will always be problems. Now, that being said I am not encouraging you to quit or leave but I guess I am challenging you to take a hard look at your life. Are you really happy or are you just afraid of change and the unknown? When I finally asked myself those questions the answers were there. A life lived out of fear of the unknown is no life at all. Take a chance, take a risk and start on a journey to loving yourself. If you don’t hear anything else-hear this : You are worth it and your life can be anything you want it to be. Be brave, you are loved.

<3 Kori

Hi olivia Hopkins
First of all i wud like to congratulate you on your success of building yourself into a person n being proud of yourself., friend im also proud of You. I think your girl frnd has her own reasons to not forgive you and keep thinking and blaming you about the things that were in past, see its an individual preference and wisdom to let go or hold on to things and in this case she is preferring to hold on.
But one thing with all my heart i want to say is that Love is about forgiving and love is about forgetting too, if we truly live somebody and see his/her efforts to be better ,this change should be appreciated and welcomed with open arms and reward of changing must be forgiveness and forgetfulness.
If i would have been at your place i would have kept loving her and at the same time would have gone after my dreams.. Coz thats my real calling
Olive if someone has to be with you he or she will make it with you . Why dont you give her a chance to miss you or think about forgetting all what happened and get over it and then cone with you. Dear go out for your dreams.,thats your purpose in life , in case you are still doubtful i would suggest be calm n think wudnt you have let her follow her dream if she had got a chance to do so ,rather than thinkng to drop the idea n staying with you.
You have done your part in this relationship you have been through everything and im sure you have grown as a wise person so move to this opportunity this will definitely open new doors in life for you. Im very hopefull if u will follow your dream,your calling you will get many things which you never imagined ever..
Go friend. Live for yourself once
I would love to knw abt your decision
Pls post it !

• This reply was modified 10 years, 1 month ago by Purpose.
• This reply was modified 10 years, 1 month ago by Purpose.