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August 22, 2020 at 10:43 am #365338
AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
With all the darkness inside homes, on the streets, in governments, anywhere and everywhere, let u(s not ignore the darkness, but) focus on the light, and keep hoping for a better life, a better world.
Good to read from you, Gregory.
(I will be back to the computer in about 8 hours from now).
anita
August 25, 2020 at 6:40 am #365513
ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
Thanks for the fagot words. This is a beautiful words a mother could give to the child. I’m happy for supporting me and others. Your contribution to this thread matter and important.
I’m focusing with my own life.
Every situation has a purpose of it. Much love to u mommy.
God bless you Anita.
Gregory.
August 25, 2020 at 8:12 am #365521AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
Good to read from you. Thank you for your kind words. I feel affection for you.
anita
August 27, 2020 at 3:45 am #365650ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
You are welcome my only day n every day’s advisor. It’s been awhile without communication. I’m a kind of a person who studied people based on their acts or character. Sometimes it is good to undergo someone to study him/her. His/her strength as Mr. Sun TU, title the of the book, “The Art of the War ” said that study the strength of your enemy or opposition against but not their weaknesses because you dealt with their weakness they will use the strength to destroy you.
But when you know them well even if you don’t talk to them they will not be able to manage you.
Amazing mom
Gregory.
August 27, 2020 at 9:49 am #365663AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
You are an intelligent and educated man, “study the strength of your enemy or opposition.. but not their weaknesses, because .. they will use the strength to destroy you”- excellent point, I don’t remember reading this before. This is something I will be thinking about for a while. Thank you, Amazing Gregory!
anita
August 28, 2020 at 5:52 am #365731ThonditParticipantDear Anita
You are welcome. Much appreciation mommy for the nice compliment towards me. I’m trying so hard to read at each book or novel that I see I have to read it and go with some good information. After finishing it up. Reading is my habits and I love it so much, it is signify daily routine that I normally do in my life.
God has blessed me with one thing, understanding thing quickly. God is so grateful for to me and I appreciate him for the give of my son that has the same genes that I had.
Sometime the way I do my things is so unique, other men or women can’t understand and that is what make me differently from them.
God bless you Anita.
Gregory.
August 28, 2020 at 9:36 am #365745AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
Yes, you are intelligent and educated, I am sure that your son is intelligent too. I know you care about his education because you paid a lot for his schooling. Did you get to see him recently???
I saw on the news yesterday a report about a South Sudanese refuge camp somewhere in Africa (Congo, perhaps?), the topic was the children’s education: how schools do not operate because of the pandemic, and there is no internet access, not even enough light to study when it is dark, and not enough study materials, like books and paper. I saw a bunch of very cute, some intelligent, well spoken children, and I thought of you, being South Sudanese, felt affection for the children in the report as well as for you.
anita
August 29, 2020 at 12:18 am #365779ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
Thank you mommy. The love I have towards you is like the same love I have for my son Christopher Agoth Gregory,…. You took your numerous times to advise me as your own son. Yes I came to my son (Thondit) that is nickname. He is doing well and perhaps so excited of being with his father. I will keep myself going higher with my son to reach to our final goal. Dream are to be made and to be reality when you make consistent and sacrifices of your life. I have my faith in my life and I believe in God.
Regarding of her M2, I never had any news about them. We will see them in the near future.
I’m taking Christopher out for all walk mommy. He has being asking me about her mom but I just told him you will see your mom in the future.
God bless you
August 29, 2020 at 8:29 am #365793AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
Thank you for your kind words and I wish you and Christopher Agoth Gregory the best of blessings. Good to read that he is doing well and that you are spending quality time with him, going on a walk. I am imagining that walk as I am typing, father and son.
anita
August 31, 2020 at 10:15 pm #365919ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
😂 😂 thanks for imaging the kind of leisure time we are spending. As I was with him he feels everything is at it centre of gravity. He was so happy to have his Dad (me) in his life.
In this time he could asked me some questions that I just kept dodging to answer them bcoz I didn’t want him to feels disappointed. He asked me why is mom not coming to See Me or talk to me?
He also said what happened to mom? I told him son your mom will come anytime. Then he said can you call her now and I talk to her mommy this me your son Christopher Agoth Gregory!!! Or mom doesn’t want to talk me. He said dady did you quarrel with my mother? And I told him, son I don’t quarrel with your mother.
The little angel is so serious about the mother.
September 1, 2020 at 11:03 am #365947AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
Good to read that Christopher Agoth Gregory has a good father.
He asked you questions: “what happened to mom?”, “daddy, did you quarrel with my mother?”- he asks these questions in his own mind at other times too, not just when he is with you. He is upset that his mother is not with him, he is worried about her: why is she not with him.. maybe you fought with her and scared her away.. maybe she is sick, he may be thinking.
You wrote that you kept dodging his questions about his mother because you “didn’t want his to feel disappointed”- but Gregory, he is already disappointed and has been disappointed every day for a long time, about his mother not being with him.
When he asked you what happened to his mother, you “told him: son, your mom will come anytime”- this is not a good answer because it makes him hope and then get disappointed yet again.
Better tell him something else so that he really does get to feel better long term. Tell him that his mother is okay, that she is healthy, but that she cannot come to see him for a long time, and that for this long time he will be okay because other adults are taking good care of him (continue to make sure that this is true).
Tell him that he is in good hands, that even though his mother is not with him, he is safe and he is loved. Tell him these things in your own words, look into his eyes as you speak to him with a gentle voice and a smile on your face, looking calm and confident.
What do you think about my suggestion?
anita
September 4, 2020 at 9:56 am #366132ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
Sorry for the late response in your suggestions. And thanks for the nice insightful words you suggested to tell Christoper.
Your suggestions are perfect and wonderful. Though he is disappointed by her mother I know one day he will feels that he was not alone in this world. I think he is not the one who is disappointed, I thought I was the one since I had been asking God since the day i was born that I want to be a good father and a loving husband but things went south. And then after thing went to that way and this way, I still kept my favorite faith and believe that one day again things will go to my way and my expectations. Back to the topic of Christopher, I’m sure he will be fine in the entire life and he will enjoy the best life ever.
Both our heart and soul will settle together and after disheartened we will be born again in the faith of God.
You have had done a lots of things Anita in this thread and i personally Greg appreciated you a lots. You are the best ever. God bless you and give you more inbounds .
Cheers.
September 4, 2020 at 10:40 am #366135AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
You are welcome, and thank you for your kindness. I am glad you like my suggestions. I understand that you are disappointed about how your marriage turned out. I wish it turned out differently. I know you wish that too, and so does Christopher.
But as you know, we have to do our best with the lives we have; there is nothing we can do about the lives we don’t have/ the lives we wished to have. Better focus on what-is than on what-could-have-been if only this or that happened differently.
I appreciate you a lot too, Gregory, for who you are to your son, to me, and to others.
anita
September 4, 2020 at 11:42 am #366136ThonditParticipantDear Anita,
Congratulations for the beautiful message Anita, I’m a proud father toward my son Christoher
Thanks
September 4, 2020 at 11:44 am #366137AnonymousGuestDear Gregory:
I am proud of you, Gregory!
anita
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