Dear Anita,

😂 😂 in the real truth,  shame on the both ladies that are trying to fight with right of people and my own truth openly.

It is signify act on their own interests but the reality is;  the truth shall stand out by itself. I have left everything they want. The head of cattle (cows) I had married her are being used to married other 4 wives which in their house now and I’m just being used up. Trust me God will never stand with them whenever they tried hardly to look for another man.

My cows will fight on my behalf all days and all night.  I’m sober enough Now. Crisis will never pass my zone and defeat will never come in front of me.

Glory be to God.

Gregory.

Dear Anita,

Thanks a lots for noticing the strength in me.  In fact you are Anita,  make me strong enough,  you had push me to go harder. To overcome the challenges.  Aha you are my sanitizer, the quarantine of our issues especially problematic. You handle each and everyone of us in a diplomatically way. Anita,  you are our covid- 19. 😂 😂 😂.  The mask of the marriage. Haha .

I’m happy and we are okay now.

IBesides, I was told that my estranged wife join nursing school yet she never have any certificate to allow her to do diploma. But she is doing diploma Now as a nurse what a fake school!  in juba.

All the best.

Gregory.

Dear Anita,

My estranged wife,  went to a nursing school and yet she never finish her high school. She doesn’t have any certificate of any grade. She only finish primary which is grade 7. She is a school drop out since 4 years ago.  Now I was told she has commenced her diploma of nursing school yet she has any certificate to qualify her for diploma. She has made bribery to registar imagine.

What kind of education is that?

I mean she has never been in one school.

It is unfortunate that I got a call yesterday from Nairobi from the teacher of my son who is currently having a personal teacher in the house.  I was told that your son do fight with her (teacher) when he is told to write with other kids that are being taught with.

If he has follow the footsteps of her mother then I have no hope Now. He is 3yrs and 8 months now.  If had started this life when he is still in baby class then what will happen when he is in primary school.?

Your advices matter Anita.

“Dear Gregory: Please explain to me as clearly as you can the following: 1) How often do you talk to your son on the phone/  online? 2) How often do you visit him in person, and how long does each visit last? 3) Who is he living with and how is he being treated there??? 4) Why is your son and you not living together someplace (away from Juba and his mother)? 5) Is there a plan for your son to be living with you anytime in the future?”

Dear Anita,

This is the interesting and genuine topic today to talk about so that you can give me clear way of this.

1. I talked with him on the phone once in a week but he doesn’t talk clearly to tell me what he is missing or lacking for. Sometimes he fear to talk me over the phone until I sweet talk him to be happy and tell me what he wants. On the other hand,  I’m confused sometimes when he doesn’t talk well to me is to becoz I’m far away from him or not. I just heard from the aunt that your son say he need bicycle and sneak and I promised him when I come soon I will buy him his bicycle.

Qn 2.

I visited him in February when schools were opened,  I went there to take him to his school where I paid $1000 baby class. I only spend 3days with him and left bcoz I was need back from the work place in SSCAA (south Sudan Civil Aviation Authority). Anita,  due to lock down it has make things hard to go there to visit him. Not bcoz lack of finances but there was no way to go there again.

Qn2(a).

I last visit him in February,  until up-to Now I never see my son again. Now the lock down is being lifted Iam going there to him this coming week by Wednesday.

Qn3.

He is living with maternal my aunt (the wife to my uncle, brother to my own  mother ) and he is living in the same house with some other kids in the house. Whose their father is also working with UNMISS in  Wau. And in the same house there are girls  living him and the elder girl is the one taking cared of him so much. I do asked some of the people who go to the house to see them, to give me his health care, and how the treated him as a baby!!!  But they always give me concrete statement that he is being treated well among others kids.

Qn 4.

This is my plan now to go there once and for all to live with him in the same place. Because I’m going to school to complete some rating and add on some hours.

Also I’m confused because I’m going to Poland and I don’t know what I’ll do to my son since he left again alone and perhaps I’m not going to come back soon until I finish.

Qn 5.

Yes I’m planing to live with him when I come back after I finish my flying school with some rating of (FK50). This is where I will be able to be with him in the same house but with some measures to put across.  He will come back from boarding school and go straight to me where we can live together. That is when the give him holiday,  I will always tell him to come to me and when the holidays is over  I will send him back to boarding school again.

That is all my plans. U can now give me your suggestions.

Cheers.

Dear Anita,

Thanks for your input and concern.

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– the $1,000 you paid for “baby school”- did it go to the school, or to your aunt.”

The $1000,  its me who always paid it through his school account, after finish clearing his school fees,  the Bank will give me bank slipe to take it to his school.

– “the toys for your son/ money you send for him- does it go to your son or to your aunt.”

I send the money to aunt and tell her that these are for my son up keep! To be honest with you I can’t lie to you,,,,  I don’t know whether the money I send to my son can used it appropriate as belong to him because I’m not there to see things with my nake eye. It is only that based on how others people I sent to monitor my son to see how the treat him in order to give me the feedback whether is being treated well or not but they said , these people are taking cared of your son.  I do this on daily basis because I’m much worries of my beloved son and I hope to be careful on him wherever I may be and where he is too!!!

The boy I normally Sent to check on my son was living with me in the house I was in juba this year,  and hence he was also under my responsibility. As per the issue of my son he said,  I can’t keep quiet if I see anything wrong being done to your son. He is my eye there to witness my son.

–” does your aunt treat your son (not related to her by blood) as less than other children who are related to her by blood.”

On this statement I’m not sure because we all don’t know what is in my somebody’s heart sometimes,  it is only God knows.  But I could say my son is the only related to her because those children which are living with him and being take cared by her are also not having their mothers as well and their father is in Wau.

I was to take back my son last month to stay with me those I’m working in juba to come and stay with me for sometimes so that he can also learn my attitude how I do my things in a smart way. But my aunt refused and said I can’t allow your son to go back again because her mother will again disturb you with him that he want her son. She suggests that if I take my son back to juba and her mother hear that his son is available in the country,  she could go and open the case and said I need my son because he is still very young and the judge could stand with her.

– your son doesn’t really have  you in his life, other than a voice  on the phone and money/ material items that may or may not reach him fully.”

Correct but soon nor not later I’m gonna be with him in the course of the week time.

I know my blood son missed me and I missed him too!  I want his love and he need my love and cared either.

Thanks you so much and this is critical topic to be discussed!!! Anita,  you are more than a mother to me.

Greg.

Dear Anita,

Amazing one!!!

Yeah I don’t want to be like somebody especially slay queen with their slay Kings as well who gave birth to children and leave them on streets.

Raising a small a child like Christopher Agoth,  is a serious work and this need commitment from the both parents but if one parent to co-operate , the one remain just has to put more effort and try to nurture your child in a well manner ways.

I know my dad was not educated neither a businessman like my father in-laws who treated his children in a soft way until they all become useless as per now. My dad nurture me to be who I’m today and I’m proud of him. Hence I know the right of someone thou. Does my estranged wife knows someone’s right?  The answer is very simple;  it is a “NO ” DOES she respects others people like they way I respect her family relatives in general?  It is also still NO.

She abuse my parents including my late mother that passed away 7 years ago,  and she never see my mother in person but she is my mother was a prostitute mixing men like DJ!  That was her abuse through text message sometimes back.

My mother was a clean and smart woman who used to respect everyone and respect me particularly. I respect her thou I wasn’t there during her funeral day those days.

But funny thing is;  I was dating my estranged wife,  my late mother heard of her and my mom love me so much those days, she ask me I was told that you are dating one of the girl and I said yes! Literally my estranged wife continuously communicate with both mom and a Dad saying I’m your son wife!

By that time I was in boarding school,  during my last year in my Hight school, in the month of October my mom,  was caught up by sickness and unfortunately my twin brother was not available in the city only our elder brother!  Thus when she was almost to die!!!  Most curse something that tell my son Gregory,  when he came back from his final exam in his boarding school that your mom said,  you should n’t leave this girl who always talked to ME. That I should marry her to be my wife. But I wasn’t intended to marry her because of her immoral characters. But since I heard the last word of my mother,  I was wordless to say anything. Why did mom comments such a word to an evil girl that her mother do witchcraft things??? Let her go now. I will see her on this earth.

I know myself,  no matter how many years I will take again without seeking for marriage,  I will still look for the super star girl and also from High class family.

My estranged wife with her mother are milking a dead cow!

They men the runs too ain’t capable to overcome me!

God is there for me and for my son!  I just want my son to be the best son but not to be like her mother which school has definitely defeated her.

I still say I wanted to be a caring and a good father and caring husband too to somebody’s daughter that I will get again!

Thanks Anita.

Greg.