Hi yes ,

i met my twin flame and they are an a hole. Lol . Avoidantly attached, non communicative, can’t tell the truth to save their life. Stalks my social media but never reaches out. If it is your twin flame they sound like a runner . And so they are truly running from themselves and not you so don’t take it personally.

then I’ll give you what most people would say “those are just labels don’t take it so seriously.”

but you and I both know how those signs can get. They don’t let you rest until you acknowledge them so.

Also very funny my name starts with a N my twin flame starts with a L.

the universe is bugging.. as usual

the universe triggers me more than my TF .. kidding

They are psychic gifts.

im a non traditional psychic and many people out there don’t have much accurate information on TF.

i don’t believe in false TF. You either have one or you don’t. Or it’s still a sacred connection regardless if it activates your gifts or calling. Search up Twin Flame Revolution on YouTube. They are my mentors actually .. don’t tell anyone lol.. nah but we share similar gifts, they are actually on point. They have a video on “false twin flames” I think they hit the nail on the head

I said the same thing. If I could wave a wand and make it go away I would. Thing is, our higher self chooses this. So we did choose it. I got a few choice words to share with my higher self as well lol. It’s a very unforgiving connection . It shows you you. And we get caught up in the magic and forget the lessons and our own power sometimes. Eventually it gets tiring and we have no choice but to start facing and listening to ourselves . And that cloud finally moves from over our heads. Will the signs still be there? Yes but they let up eventually unless you know, they are thinking about you, are near, or we are not being true to ourselves. Your TF regardless to where they are physically will always be connected to you. So boundaries are also important . Especially spiritual boundaries.

But yours doesn’t seem to be like at that annoying stage yet.

Just accept the signs and be open to the lessons. Stay structured in your purpose. Don’t get too caught up in it. Yes it’s annoying. But consider it a blessing . You aren’t alone. God does exist. You so have a purpose. Life goes on.

I also get the “tired of people running away” piece. Attachment styles also play a role in it.  Not always. Im a secure attachment and I ran at the very beginning, but I ran towards myself. My TF is very avoidant. I thought they were anxious but turns out they are fearful avoidant so a mixture of both.

Once I became more secure in my attachment style I began to attract others who are more secure . It’s a little boring at first. But it’s a lot more peaceful in the long run.

I think that’s partially why I’m jaded. I knew I fell in love with my TF because we were at peace. But as soon as all our trauma started to mirror each-other and fears came up, and questions about identity/sexuality , lifestyle differences etc came up… it all kind of blew up in our faces. More so their face lol. I trust my life and my purpose, I’ve learned to listen and take steps forward regardless to not seeing the whole staircase. My TF sort of like me, I think gets caught up in the looks of things. Afraid of how others will perceive them. And not very trusting of life itself. Like if they took risks, they’re afraid it will explode in their face. Type of thing . Me on the other hand , with my experiences and how spiritually loud this situation has been , I’m 90-100 % sure that if we came together things would take off in a positive direction, we’d build together, be financially more abundant, be more sure of our purpose and balance eachother out in it. Because your gifts do activate with the connection .

But you can also do it all without them. It’s just hard at first until you fully face yourself.

I hope your TF works his stuff out. Or that you meet your soulmate.

That’s beautiful.

Dear Lena:

You are welcome. Our teenage/ adult infatuations or attractions to others have a lot to do with our early childhood experiences. Almost everything does. I will use quotes from your share to suggest what I think happened with S:

“I felt connected to him in a way that’s really difficult to put into  words”- when we are young children we feel intensely. Our emotions are raw and pure because we don’t yet add thoughts and words to the emotional experience. There are no cognitive interruptions that dilute and weaken the emotional  experience. What you experienced with him, aided by alcohol, was that pre-cognition, early life quality of emotion.

“like we were showing each other the self that you normally keep  tucked away until you know someone well (and perhaps not even then)”- a young child does show her real self to others automatically, from birth . The child is not at all self conscious, not yet inhibited by later life experiences, such as rejection. What you experienced with S, at times, was that uninhibited, unhidden self, like a young child.

“He revealed deep-seated insecurities to me and I found myself sharing the same insecurities”- reads like he too had that young child experience with  you, aided by alcohol. (You found out that the two of you share the same insecurities because most of us people do share the same insecurities).

“I experienced this strange, heady mix of feeling like I could completely be myself around him”- I think we miss this experience of long ago, before disapproval, before rejection, before rules of conduct, when we were indeed ourselves.

“There was a dreamlike quality to our time together”- a re-experience of early childhood experience. It was indeed a dream. And you got  a glimpse of it. Intoxicating, isn’t it?

“the more I try to  let go and move on, the more I cling onto him. I really don’t know why”- I think the reason is that dream, that intoxicating magic of how it felt to be  a young child before life hit us on the face and spoiled that magic. You felt a bit of that dreamy experience and you want more of  it.

“I don’t know what it is  about S that makes me still think about him so often”- why S, may be the question, what about him brought the dream and magic to life?-

– alcohol helped. But other than alcohol: can be his smile, the look in his eyes, his mannerism, something about him remined you of someone in your life as a young child. Something you forgot, it being so long ago. But part of you remembered when you saw his smile, or his eyes, or the way he wiggled his nose.

If he experienced something similar with you, and I think he did, he awakened from that experience. You are still attached to the dream, is what I think.

anita