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December 17, 2018 at 10:52 am #269691
AnonymousInactiveWhen I say truly in love. I have obviously been in relationships before but nothing that compared to this one. Probably why it’s taking me so long to get over. However perhaps the fact she came on so strong at the beginning was the reason for this.
December 17, 2018 at 11:45 am #269711AnonymousGuestDear Richard:
Yes, that “overwhelming affection and attention she gave” you (a quote from page 1), I tend to think that it was sincere and genuine. I don’t see a reason why she would fake that. The fact that you were so moved by that affection from her leads me to think that you correctly perceived it as honest.
I think she really did like you very much. And it seems to me that her other considerations motivated her away from you.
I wish it wasn’t so. I wish another woman will feel just as strongly about you and you will about her. I will be away from the computer and back in about sixteen hours. Post again anytime, hope you will feel better and better.
anita
December 17, 2018 at 1:32 pm #269717AnonymousInactiveHi again Anita and thanks for taking the time again to respond.
I don’t know if the affection and love she showed me was genuine now. Perhaps it was just her reaction to her divorce and being so lonely during it. I often read that these are symptoms of being on the rebound so to speak.
If she liked me I’m not sure she would have treated me so badly and shown so little respect or regard for my feelings. Also I am certain she would have reached out to me even just through curiosity. Even something as a simple text message or something.
From my experience when she gets into a new relationship she throws herself into it with everything and moves it along very quickly, you saw from my post how we fast we moved in the short time we were together. Perhaps this is what she has done with this new guy as 4-5 months does seem very soon to be going on a lavish holiday with him and her children.
December 18, 2018 at 6:38 am #269793AnonymousGuestDear Richard:
You are welcome. From personal experience I know it is possible for a woman to feel genuine affection for a man but later other values take precedence and the feelings change. So let’s say she really did like you a lot but later thought: how is this man going to promote my lifestyle.. how is that other man going to promote my lifestyle? Following those thoughts her feelings changed, her motivation for a better lifestyle, more money, moved her away from the affection for you toward an interest in another man.
It can be the girl-in-her liked you a lot, but what she learned to value later in life, money and such, that came into play and took away the little girl in her, away from you and herself.
anita
December 18, 2018 at 10:37 am #269855AnonymousInactiveThanks Anita, I kind of take some comfort in that and often wonder if her head overruled her heart with her relationship with me considering she has children. I know that coming from a poor upbringing and background she always wanted to have for her children what she didn’t have.
I often wonder if she might reach out to me even if just from curiosity. Do you think this is at all likely? I do feel like she did have some feelings for me and the reason she took so long to decide between me and whoever this guy might be, was because I was there for her emotionally whereas she knew in the long run he would be better in terms of being able to provide the life she wants for her kids even in that was shallow and superficial on her part. 5 months on from our last contact makes me wonder if she did feel anything for me at all though as I would have thought if she felt anything she would have even if it was to just see how I am doing.
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