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  • April 13, 2014 at 4:04 pm #54699
    Cyd
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    Hi there,

    In reality you won’t ever be able to let him go completely because your heart will always have some residual feelings left for him. I know this sounds cliché, but time heals all. It can take years for you to truly heal and feel comfortable enough to give and receive love from someone else. The way I see it, he made a conscious decision in letting you go. Why would you want to hang on to someone who does not want you anymore? Would you really be happy with someone who did not want you. If you loved them so much you would care about their happiness as well and wouldn’t want them to be unhappy. During this time, take every day as it comes and feel all that you can feel. Work on loving yourself and focus on what you have learned through this journey. It is ok to feel angry but don’t let that anger turn to bitterness because that allows him to control you even though he isn’t with you. I applaud you for keeping yourself busy and productive. Keep pushing 🙂

    April 14, 2014 at 11:47 am #54760
    Jenn-ay
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    Lucy,

    Heartaches or heartbreaks do heal with time, like Cyd said. Feeling lonely is also par for the course. Your heart needs to go through the emotions it is feeling, and what you really are experiencing is just grief. There are 5 stages to grief: denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and acceptance. Everyone experiences grief differently, some skip stages, some go back and forth for a while, the whole thing is to go through the process, feel your feelings, but to also keep living your life.

    It never fails to amaze me, after years and sometimes decades after some guy broke my heart, I catch myself thinking, “Boy, he was a jerk, when I knew him, but I wonder how he is doing now?” No, bad feelings, just curious about a person I have known along the way.

    Your ex has become a lesson for you, you may not see what the lesson is yet, but you will learn something about yourself, relationships, or life, etc.

    April 16, 2014 at 11:00 am #54867
    Angela D
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    http://dev.tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-release-and-prevent-resentment-in-your-relationships/

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