Dear Tracy:

If your life will be significantly easier if you left him, if you will therefore be able to be a better mother, being less distressed as a result of a separation, perhaps a divorce from him, then perhaps you should do just that. How is he as a father to your son; does he interact with him regularly, attentive to him?

There are things to consider, why don’t you research things relating to what your life will be in practical terms separated/ divorced from him, then make a pros and cons list. You are welcome to share such research and list here, if you’d like. I will be glad to give you my input.

* Will be away from the computer for the next sixteen hours or so.

anita

Dear Tracy:

I understand. I think you are overwhelmed,, having been distressed for too long. I hope that somehow you can find a way to relax, just enough to unwind enough and be able to start from the beginning. What I mean by the beginning is to see the situation as-it-is now. Not wishing past mistakes were not done or would be undone, but accept that what happened, happened and look at things as they are now, as a beginning.

Then take it from that beginning, doing  what needs to be done, step by step, so to make life better. Post again anytime.

I will soon be away from the computer for the next sixteen hours or  so. When I am at the computer and see that you posted, I will reply.

anita