Cameron,

That sounds like bubkiss to me, my heart and mind also rejected it. Relationships like that happen, but to call that “soul mate” sounds like someone remains bitter over a deep connection that went south. Don’t be afraid of words, just look. What do you see?

If spiritual development is a big thing for you, there’s good reason to share it. Guys will either like you or not, being spiritual isn’t a turn off to any of my male friends at least. If you had “I want to have lots and lots of babies”, perhaps a little rethinking might be involved. 🙂 Perhaps you’re looking in the wrong spot? Often, its easiest to find compatible people by going out and doing what we love to do. That’s where they’ll be, doing what they love to do. Or, you’ll have so much fun doing it that you’ll take some of that pressure off your shoulders.

For me, I’ve never had good luck with love when seeking it. Rather, it has always grown for me (including with my wife) when I was just out playing, happy, sharing the joy grown on the cushion.

With warmth,
Matt

Thanks everyone.

Hey cameron @cameron

When our consciousness grows, everything becomes crystal clear. As long as our human lens is blurred with negative experiences, ignorance or arrogance, everything seems like a disblief if it doesnt match our values or current understanding of how things should be.

In my opinion, we have many soul mates around us and more new ones come along at different junctions of life. Each soul is teaching us something or learning something from us so that we can all learn about and become UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. We are part of a huge soul group. So please do not get stuck with that perfect fit version of a soul mate. I am living with 3 soul mates currently – 2 dogs and hubby hehehe that I just adore and love to bits. All 3 have taught me so much in life that I could not have learnt otherwise. We all have our own moments from time to time but as long as we remember that we are all here to learn and grow, things come back to fun times quickly.

As for listing religion or spirituality as your interests on dating sites – it is a personal preference. When we are comfortable in our own skin, it doesnt really matter. It seems you may not be clear about your love for religion or spirituality, because if you were, you would not have any confusion about it.

Perhaps, the question you need to ask yourself is: what sort of guy do I see myself with ? What do you want in a life partner ? Then visualise that person. A person doesnt have to be spiritual or religious to be awesome. My husband is far from both but he is still kind, funny, loving, respectful and lets me be me. Become the person you want to attract.

Often we attract people into our lives based on the persistent energy we send out into the Universe. If we accept ourselves the way we are, we find more people who are happy to accept us as we are. While religion and spirituality are good topics for conversation, they do not define anyone. What defines us is how we treat ourselves and others.

Hang in there and pls do not listen to too many advices as it can corrupt the good work that we are doing on self growth. Too many cooks spoil the broth, yeah ! Stick to simplicity and do what makes you happy.

Blessings,

J

Cameron,

Thanks for the kind words! Its good to keep our attention on our own heartsong when dancing with others. Question, examine, explore, accept, reject, ignore… as we follow what feels right, the heart grows wise. Welcome back!

With warmth,
Matt