Dear NeedAChange:

I looked up PPPD on Wikipedia: Persistent Postural-Perceptual Dizziness, a “chronic subjective dizziness” condition that is diagnosed by eliminating known conditions, as there is no test that indicates PPPD. It is tightly connected to anxiety.

Your anxiety, that is, a chronic condition of reactivated fear, as I define it here, started a long time ago, when you were a child: “I have always been a little ‘off’ after having Mono as a kid”. By the time you experienced Mono the anxiety took hold.

“I’ve always been kind of a day dreamer and I would day dream about lovers, but it was always just fun and not real”- I too day dreamed. I day dreamed a whole lot. I definitely day dreamed way more than did actual living, actual experiencing of life, that is.

Anxious people day dream, it is a way to relax. We don’t day dream about conflicts, we day dream about what is “fun and not real”- a break from real-life, a break from conflict and anxiety.

“When I was single, I thought of all the possibilities. But when this person came around, it kinda stifled that”- it is as easy to think of possibilities as it is to day dream. When you met this man, as great as he is, life can not be as easy, calm and wonderful as we experience day dreaming and imagining.

In a way, this healthy love relationship is sort of raining on your parade of how much better it feels to day dream.

Did you get any insight as to your anxiety when you saw the therapist you mentioned?

anita

Dear NeedAChange:

I’d say if your current relationship is a healthy one and your boyfriend is a good man, then protect your relationship from your anxiety, such as your tendency to blame him for what he is not responsible for. A healthy relationship is so very important in the process of emotional healing, it is like the ground you walk on in what I refer to as the healing path.

Second, it is about managing and better, healing from anxiety. Anxiety is very much the human condition but healing, even if not complete healing, is possible. Possible but not easy. It takes a whole lot of work. But with persistence and patience and guidance you can make a whole lot of progress within months, and even more in a few years time.

I imagine you came across a lot of literature about anxiety and suggestions such as meditation, exercise, yoga, walks in nature and so forth. Will you tell me in summary what you already know about anxiety, in particular your own anxiety,  what suggested did you already try, and what was your experience with those?

(Take your time answering, no rush. I am okay with communicating with you about this over days and longer, however long it takes).

anita

Dear NeedAChange:

I will be able to reply to your recent post tomorrow morning, about 13 hours from now. You are welcome to add any additional information that occurs to you as relevant to the topic before I return.

anita

You have a flying phobia. Usually simple to treat one single session with the right type of therapist. You need someone to help you remove the phobia. A good Hypnotherapist with NLP training should be a good start. There is no need to go into your past or overthink this. A phobia cure works by pulling apart the structure that hold the phobia in place. Its really just emotional baggage paired to an external trigger. In this case flying.

Dear NeedAChange:

Start in-the-beginning- the child you, experiences you remember. Again, no need to share identifiable information, including exact ages, approximations will do, places, names, etc.

anita