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  • August 3, 2015 at 6:39 pm #81156
    Anonymous
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    Dear Lianna:

    It is unfortunate that
    1) Someone passed on an STD to you (had unprotected sex, I gather)
    2) You (unknowingly) passed it on to your bf.
    3) Your boyfriend broke your relationship over the above.

    Here is a possible (and hopefully NOT) number
    4) You are now pronounced bad. It is your job to purify yourself, extricate or otherwise eliminate your badness, become good and show him and prove to him forevermore that indeed you are good. All bad or otherwise unpleasant events are your fault, because of the not-totally extricated badness. You are on your way to a lifetime of beating yourself up, being beaten by him/ others and the best you can do is become good enough to deserve a little mercy.

    i do hope your pain, evident in your post, is reduced over time. I do hope that you adopt the principle that ‘to err is human.”

    In the current state of affairs it may seem that all was just perfect before the STD incident and aftermath, but not necessarily so. It felt perfect but that doesn’t mean it was perfect. It is possible that things could go south some time later without the incident. Just stating reality: possible.

    Post again, if you’d like. What about the bad things happening in your life in the past three years, things not related to him? What is the reason you wanted some kind of separation from him to begin with??? How was he then in your way of dealing with those bad things?

    anita

    November 14, 2015 at 12:41 am #87466
    iAmJay
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    I hope you said sorry, I hope he knows what you have done, thing that makes it worse is the fact that you keep on chasing him. You cant put him through that and still make it all about you.
    How its “unfortunate for you” how your the frigging victim.
    If you loved him, and had no motive behind your “break” and you just wanted to catch up on life, would you not want to share that time with the one true love of your life? If you genuinely wanted that time to make up for missed time, why did you fill that ever so important time obtaining an sti? Ain’t as though you were using that break to experience anything apart from another lads bed.
    Is that also why you felt the need to make point that you didn’t wanna break up? Whys that in question if that’s the case? You are a hypocrite, you will end up cheating on him if you haven’t already, I can assure you normal people don’t do this stuff, especiallynot to loved ones, you have no self respect, I’m even more shocked you’d do it too your self.
    Sti’s ruin lives and kill, you could have ruined chances to have children, more importantly, your ex partners chances.
    Give your head a wobble.

    November 14, 2015 at 2:06 am #87470
    Dernell
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    EVERY BODY MAKES MISTAKES”……….

    Some worse” than others”, none-the-less still mistakes”… no ones perfect’… That’s the problem with the world today”…

    I’m tired of people” bashing” you down” for it”…or being cyber bullies”……….. who gives them the right” to even judge”…..You already feel” guilty’ and really hurt” about what you” have done”….

    For every action’… there’s a reaction”….

    And because of that, you’re going to have to expect verbal” slander from people”… If the shoes were turned around”, you might feel the same” way that they” do…. who knows”…

    I’m sad” to read that this has happened”… so please” just learn from it”… and move” on….You can not undo the do”…..

    But” right now actions” are better” than words”… meaning stay away” from your ex…. maybe get him a card”… and write him a true” sincere” apology”…. but keep it simple”…meaning only a paragraph”…and not a word” over”…

    ( And nothing about the relationship” )…… At all nothing”…..

    Then I would apologize” to his family”….no joke”…mother and father”…face to face”…

    Learn to LOVE” YOURSELF”…………………….and let time heel….

    You are still a…. person/ human/ women/ sister/ aunt/ grandaughter/ etc…….. who still should be showed LOVE” and treated” with KINDNESS”…..Just as much as you have fault”… in this…so is there some truth”…

    There is always” 3 sides to the story”… and the third is the truth”….

    Please” don’t let peoples rude views” about you, cause you” to hurt “yourself”… Enough damage” has already been done”….

    IT takes courage” and humility” to even express” something so serious” like that on here”….

    Take care of yourself” and from this point” on…. RESPECT” yourself” and so on to OTHERS”….

    Love to all”….

    November 14, 2015 at 9:35 pm #87504
    TriangleSun
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    Yes, everyone makes mistakes. This doesn’t mean that you will be forgiven by the other person involved for each mistake you make. Unfortunately what you have done will be very difficult if not impossible to forgive. I think you need to acknowledge your mistake, learn from it and try to move on. As long as you learn from it and forgive yourself everything will be fine.

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