Dear Urban Sun:

I think that what fuels your increasing anxiety is that you want to move to your target country and be with your boyfriend too intensely, too desperately, too impatiently.

Relax your wanting; relax into the possibility that your petition will be rejected.

Sure you want to immigrate and you can’t make yourself not want that. I understand. But want it LESS.

anita

Hi Urban Sun

I don’t know if the prayer of Alcoholics Anonymous is of any use at a time like this but I find it helps:

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference

Best wishes

Pete