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  • June 17, 2013 at 7:24 am #37056
    Laleh
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    Hi everyone,
    Sorry I posted this in sprituality section but seemed like more appropriate here and more chance for people to read it since I didn’t get a replay back. Hoping to get some suggestions 🙂 Thanks for reading.
    So I am very glad to found this place, I’ve been building up my spiritual knowledge for a long time now, but recently I went through a dramatic experience that shook me and made me get tired of everything, and think why this happened to me, and what do I learn from this so I wont repeat it again etc.

    So basically, I wanted to move to NYC, I was thinking about it for a long time, then I met a guy when I was visiting nyc, and things started to go very nicely, and all of a sudden I got an internship in nyc, things were happening so fast, after I got it, I felt ok, everything is going well, me and my guy were doing so well, and he was coming to my town to see me and I was going there.. and then once I accepted the internship offer things started to fall apart,I started to doubt, I needed money for it and it wasn’t coming, I was scared, I thought am I rushing into this because of this guy? The lady didn’t give me proper paper work for me for the internship, I am Canadian so I needed paperwork to move. And I started to feel like I am pushing this just for the guy, I wasn’t happy, I was scared, couldn’t even eat, had this very bad feeling in my stomach, everyone was saying why aren’t you happy, you love NYC. I did, and I do, my guy was starting to contact me less and less, I think he was not ready for me moving there, and was freaking out and i felt like I am going for him not for me,… anyways, long story short, things fell apart, they didn’t let me in at the border, of course because I didn’t have the proper document, and he stopped contacting me few days after he found out my plans are postponed until get things going again..

    So now my question is; I have been working on myself quite a bit since then, trying to learn what went wrong and why I freaked out and how I should go with the flow, and listen to the universe properly instead of pushing something. It has been more than a month now, and i am doing much better, but I have an issue

    I read the power of intention by Wayne Dyer, i’m sure everyone has read it, it helped me a lot, and made it clear what I want, I really do want to move to NYC, and as soon as I decided that yes that is what I want, and maybe I was doing it in a wrong way that is why didn’t happen. So I decided to just go with the flow and listen to the universe
    unbelievably, ever since I am getting os many signs each day no one would be believe if I tell them. I would turn on the tv and the lady is saying to someone, you should move ot NYC. Or I sit in the book store to read and the song singing I’m in the new york state of mind, I could go on and on, so it became clear to me, this is what I suppose to do and i am suppose to be there, but they say look at the signs and go for it, but how?
    My question is, the signs are all there, but at the moment now matter how much I look, I don’t see any lead, I am applying for jobs again and anything that has a tie to NYC I try, but basically it’s like shooting in the dark, I don’t see any signs for HOW to make it happen, Wayne Dyer says, when you have a desire and the signs are there, universe will make it happen, miracles happen.. Do I need to wait and see and it will happen on its own time? I am open to suggestion, I am currently doing whatever feels right, and not whatever others tell me you should, I learned this lesson in a very hard way.
    Thank you in advance for your suggestion
    I love having these communities
    Love
    Danubelle
    http://www.daubelle.com

    June 17, 2013 at 12:43 pm #37114
    Jeff
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    I’m 50 and a father to three teens and I’ll say to you what I always tell them. Do what you want, even when it means taking a risk. Because I would rather you give things a try and fail than I would you not even trying and spending the rest of your life wondering if you made a mistake.

    Sometimes we spend so much time looking for everything to be dropped in our laps. You say yourself you keep seeing those signs- the New York signs- telling you to go, but you wait for a job to appear. Maybe one will and all will be great, but perhaps you are pushing again and need to see where time takes you regarding the job. Maybe you need to change your criteria for looking. Or maybe you need to start someplace else that will ultimately lead you to New York. It will happen if/when it happens. But ask yourself, if you just “go for it” what is the worst case scneario- that you have to go back home?

    June 18, 2013 at 8:42 am #37147
    Laleh
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    I see your point Jeff thank you. But the thing is this time is not really about me ” going for it” because I was refused entry once at the border, I can not just go for it, I need a job offer or something to be able to enter the states, and since I don’t have a job right now in Canada either, they won’t let me in as a visitor either. So that is why I am saying, the signs are there but I am lost in what to do, because the only way I can go is to have an offer over there. So yes you might be right that I can’t just sit and things fall into my lap, that is why I am trying to figure out what to do, as far as job goes I am applying everyday, and seems like it has been blocked, absolutely nothing is happening. The criteria is a good idea, I might be looking in the wrong places. Usually when I want to move or do something, I make it happen no matter what, that is why I went for it for nyc last time, even though I didn’t have proper documents, and of course it was a mistake cause now I made my situation harder. At first I thought ok maybe I am not suppose to move to NYC, the guy I fell for basically disappeared as well right after the plan fell apart, and broke my heart, on top of everything, I am wondering why that happened on top of it. All of this was too much, but the signs are telling me to go, I’m starting to think maybe the signs don’t mean anything? I really don’t know what to do right now other than wait. I am basically surrendering, but needing to support myself and need a job asap is keeping me from relaxing and that might be the case for blocking the energy.
    Thanks again

    June 18, 2013 at 10:10 pm #37176
    StraightNoChaser
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    Hi Laleh,

    Why NYC? What do you hope to accomplish there? What do you want to happen?

    The blockage maybe coming from not being clear or having a focus, that maybe why it fell apart the first time. The reason the signs maybe be coming to you is because you are thinking about it so much. The reason it hasn’t happened yet because there is no foundation or direction.

    Lets say for ex, I wanted a boyfriend. The universe may deliver me a “boyfriend” but he may not be what I thought I wanted. So in that case I don’t just want a boyfriend I want a partner to hang out with. So the universe will deliver me that, however I realize a boyfriend to hang out with is not enough. And why do I need another person to hang out with? What I’m getting at is that you need to refine your goal and figure out the root cause of wanting to go to NYC. Is it to get away from something that’s happening at home? To get a job? I feel that universe listens to our deepest desires. Without a strong foundation and path things will fall apart because there isn’t enough intention to keep it going.

    Map out a path that will lead to New York, maybe there is more work to be done before you are ready to move. The easy and fast way never really works out. Once you create a map you will be able to pinpoint the blockage

    Hope that helps and made some sense. I find goals we are passionate about take awhile to manifest.

    June 19, 2013 at 6:25 am #37186
    Laleh
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    Thank you for the insights. I know what you are saying, about NYC. I belong in NYC, that is the long stroy short, so that is how clear i am that I want to live there. And it happened exactly a year ago when I went for a visit, not for anyone else, not for materialistic reasons or accomplishments(that’s a different issue) Just because I knew I had to. If you are a spiritual person you would know what I mean.

    As a spiritual person we all know that signs are more than signs, there is no such thing as coincidences, and it’s universe’s way of talking to us. Believe me, it would have been a lot easier if I thought I dont have to go to NYC and stay in Toronto and get a job here, and I would have been ok if I had seen a glimpse of that nudge from universe. But no, it is obvious my heart is set and clear.

    I am clear about what i want, but I am not clear how, that is the issue. I know the HOW has to come from having faith and letting universe handle it, but I am such a doer, and not a sitter, so it’s hard for me just not do anything about it. And my life situation is in need of emergency fixing, since i have no job and staying with relatives, so this way of having faith, would not be very practical 🙂

    But you might have a point there after all, a direction might help. And very good point about the foundation, the thing about NYC is, I was trying to make up reasons for it, I like the city, I want my career to advance, (and last time it didn’t happen I was confused because i was really rushing it to be with a guy ! that disappeared on me ) But I realized after all the soul searching and trying to find my intention that, I just simply feel that I need to be in NYC, you know what i mean? I simply belong there. I don’t hate Toronto, and i am not running away form anything, I have been living in different cities a lot, and I finally felt at home when I went to NYC. I know that is not about being happy and bring happiness or everything else, I just think this is my first clue, and I will get directed after I go as well.
    I do have a certain vision in mind to what to do in NYC and where I want to work, and even which street I want to live at, but those are just details I guess. Last time I tried, I did have a strong intention, cause I was seeing the guy I fell for, and had a strong desire to be with him, but then as soon as I accepted it and made plans to go, unsettling feelings, and guilt and feeling of I’m doing this for the wrong reasons came to me and sure enough it fell apart in a bad way.
    So you might hit a point there.
    I might be still in a sad state and not totally over what happened to me, so not quite clear in my mind and in the moment at time to see what is infront of me. Having to miss the guy I was with (that disappeared on me with no explanation when my NYC plans fell through)has had quite an impact on me. I’ve started to let it go, but it still comes back at least once a day to upset me.
    I will try to find a strong foundation for my desire and put out map, maybe it works. I might be trying too hard in my mind.
    Thanks again
    Love
    Danubelle
    http://www.danubelle.com

    June 20, 2013 at 3:00 am #37208
    Laleh
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    Hi Straight..I’ve been thinking about what you said all day, I felt that you hit a point there, but I can’t seem to figure out a direction of it, I think the wave of emotions from the heartbreak I’ve had keeps coming and keeps me at times to be able to be in the present moment, I am still (not as much but still) dueling with how he just stopped contacting me with no explanation and that has put a big shadow over my life right now, I’ve been trying to get over it, and make plans and etc. but I realized today, it has effected me more than I thought. I use to be very good at bouncing back up when life brought me down, but this time I feel like I just have to wait, does that make sense at all? not matter what I “think” I should do, something is just holding me back from taking any sort of action, for example this is the first time in my life, I didn’t even try to contact the guy to ask what is going on why haven’t I heard from you, although I had every right to do so, and everyone of my friends told me you should demand explonation, but something just holds me back, this is not me at all, I use to be a person getting answer from people weather they wanted it or not, pretty pushy and a control freak as a matter of fact. But now I even tried to push myself to contact him, I just can not. I am just sad altogether. And is keeping from moving on and not feeling so little. I wish I could get closure without contacting him, but it’s been more than a month. and no amount of meditsting, reading and asking others, has helped. The feeling of nonaction is quite high in me and is not helping y situation. job or other parts of life right now. Wish i knew what I was suppose to do.
    thanks again
    love
    danubelle

    October 13, 2013 at 7:59 pm #43743
    StraightNoChaser
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    Hi Laleh,

    I’m so sorry for my late reply, I was going through a lot the past couple of months and fell off the radar. How are you doing? How are you feeling? Are you back in NYC? Let me know how you are and how everything is going and if you need any advice I’m here. Take care

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