Hi Tyler
I can understand your pain. I broke up with my ex girlfriend one month ago.
Do not blame yourself for what you have done, but instead, reflect on them and try to change yourself, even a little at a time, for your own sake and for your girlfriend.
I think you can write her an email or hand-written letter to tell her that you are sorry and how much she meant to you and that she is special. Be kind and gentle in the letter(or email), do not give her any pressure, no guilt. Be honest with your feeling but write in a way that does not give pressure or blame.
Be honest but do not make yourself sounds desperate, now (in this letter at least) is not the time to tell her that you miss her so much you want to make love or you want to hug her(just an example here). But you can tell her you miss her because she is special in your life.
Show your gratitude to her in the letter, thank her for even the smallest things, example: the breakfast she cooked, how she helped to choose your clothes when you guys go for shopping. Again, be kind & positive in the letter, nothing heavy that will make her feel uncomfortable or confused
Tell her that you will always be there for her and she can contact you anytime when she need to.
After the letter, give her some space to think and recover, it is ok (and sometimes necessary) to have no contact for a few days or even weeks. And if you you do contact her or see her, send short “How are you?” “Everything OK?” “All the best in your work” type of emails to show that you care. If you do see/meet her, give her a warm smile, and a gentle greeting. Again, nothing heavy that will make her uncomfortable

I believe she have feelings for you, you just need to be kind and gentle to her, and give her time. I believe time and sincerity and your love.

This is just my own opinion.

Now that you are alone, use this time to polish and improve yourself (and change)
I hope and pray that everything will turn out for both of you

Lets us know how it goes. All the best

Howard

Tyler,
Words are cheap, actions are all that matter to women. They see through good intentions and observe us men in a way that is hard to understand. Your girlfriend realized that she loved you deeply and that her life would be one of expecting you to understand her but never would so she ended what she thought was hopeless. However here is the good news, women want and need men. The challenge is to be one! I speak from experience so I am hoping you read this many times. Men have emotional control, they understand that a women’s world is typically much more emotionally draining and intense than ours and a man can take all the stress and still make sure he treats her gently. Do your own thing but include her, dress well, eat well and have some discipline in your job or exercise routine. That my friend is the simple formula. I hope this helps it took me a while to learn it.

Sorry to hear that Tyler.

You were in the moving on process but got side-tracked because you had expectations and you still cared for her and a part of you wanted to give it a chance, and that’s totally ok and normal. I think everyone goes through this cycle after a break-up. Just pick up where you left off, and continue with moving on and the healing process.

Take care 🙂

I totally get it, Tyler. Not your fault for having expectations, you had good reasons for having them. I’ve been there with an ex. It hurts like hell, I know. At least, now you know she is not going to make good her word, so next time, you will be stronger and focus more on the process of moving on. Believe me, it gets better. I think if she had called you and told you that you are not meeting, then maybe that would just make you “hope” more.

Hello,

I think the answer is simple but it’s an everyday decision and a lifelong process – focus on yourself, make yourself a priority and be happy, with or without her. 🙂

Good luck!