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    Akka
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    What a wonderful thing to have a forum like this where people can support each other. So happy to have found this.

    I don’t imagine that I am alone in what I am feeling, and hope that you all can share some insight on what helped you.

    I’m 25 years old, and have been living with my partner for about a year and a half. We have been together nearly three years total. Lately…some very familiar feelings of the past have started to creep up.  I have started to get annoyed with him a lot more..I am very sensitive to all the little teases and jokes that come from him. I am unable to take criticism from him. Comments from him about how to improve something are hard to take positively.

    Lately I have been thinking about how our relationship started. He went on a date with me while still in a relationship with his ex girlfriend. He claims they broke up soon after our date. But the idea hurts me. Last March, I found a post of his on a public forum (similar to this one) that he is “compelled to find someone” that makes him feel the way his first love did (different than the ex before me).

    I never tell people these things…because I know they will think of him differently. Judge him, perhaps. I certainly didn’t tell my therapist. Still…as I write these things out, I am so deeply saddened. Embarrassed that I did not value myself enough to end things with him at each of those times. Disgusted that I feel this way…and simultaneously feel so much love for how much he has helped me grow.

    I guess I’ve started to see him as a reminder of how weak I can be sometimes. How desperate for love, that I will let anything pass. I care about him. I don’t want to end this, but I want to value myself. Is it possible for me to give myself love and see him with compassion once again? Can I continue to grow in this relationship?

    #275555
    Mangal Kavita
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    hey ,im kavita… well, i think everybody needs to first love ownself after that they could not fell alone , and about yours relationship , love is not enough to live a life or spending time with a guy our self respect or there behaviour towards us means to if you find that you cant stay in this toxic relationship because you are suffering , there is no mean to stay with him . i know it hards to apart but sometimes it is necessary for both people ! so keep your hand to your heart and close yours eyes and ask yourself , now are you happy with him or are you suffocating then you will find a answer… i dont know the situation exactly but you know if you really find your answer ownself then dont take more time ,leave him!!!!!!

    i wish you find any solution of yours probelm ! thanks

     

    #275571
    Anonymous
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    Dear Akka:

    To understand better I ask:

    1. Can you give examples of his teases and jokes and how you believe he is criticizing you (“all the little teases and jokes that come from him. I am unable to take criticism from him”).

    2. Did you ask him what he meant by being “compelled to find someone” that makes him feel a particular way, if it means he is compelled to search for a woman (who is not you) and is actually searching?

    anita

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