Dear Lisa:

Reads like when the two of you started talking about past relationships that didn’t work and about the future of the new relationship between the two of you, that he was shaken out of his relaxation and perfect-day feeling (“He kept saying he’d never felt so relaxed.. it was a perfect day for him”).

“he was saying he’s very guarded and needs to go at a snails pace so I asked him if he felt ready for a relationship”- what he told you (italicized) means he is ready for a snail-pace relationship, one where you “play it by ear”. You messaged him, he felt pressured by you and went “radio silence for 4 days”. You messaged him again, he felt more pressured and decided to go radio silenced permanently.

“I just can’t help feeling like I rushed him”- you did rush him. But were you able then or will you be able in a few weeks to go as slow as a snail? (Not a lot of people are able to do a relationship that slow, snail pace).

anita