I apologizes for my english. I have been dating this man for one year and a half. I live in another country since I am studying a PhD and he was in a short term research here. I first meet him online, but when day we accidentally meet in the street and we started to really talk and date. At the beginning he was not ready for a relationship, he had just ended a long relationship of several years, but after I told him I didn’t want to be a temporal distraction and we stop talking for a week he said he really wanted to be with me. But he had to go back to his country because his research stay was over. Then we were supposed to continue in a distance relationship. But I has a very bad time with my PhD and I got depressed and anxious, I couldn’t sleep for over a month and I told him I couldn’t be with him. Although at that time I felt he was really sure about hiss feelings for me. He continued texting me from time to time. During this time I went to psychology and my mother came to visit me. After my depression passed I asked him to come and visit and we re-started our relation. I was feeling very good and I was trying not to think about the future and enjoy the present moment. But at the same time I was never really sure about him. He didn’t call me or text often, we talk by phone once or twice a week and saw each other every month and a half. If I invited him to a trip or to visit me he will always say yes. He always gave the most thoughtful presents, He always seems to pay attention to my interest and to what I say and do. But we never talk about the future. I am about to finish my PhD and I need to decide whether go back to my country or stay abroad.

One month ago he came to visit and I decided to tell him that I didn’t want to continue our relationship.One month before I decided to add him on facebook (we never added each other after all this time) but he didn’t accept my invitation. When I visited him in his country he only introduced me to two of his friends. I never really knew if his friends know about me and those things. He said he didn’t see my invitation, that he rarelly uses fb. That his close friends knew about me but he didn’t had time to introduce me because I only visited him for four days. He said he believes I need to be close to my family and in my country. And that he thought sometimes in invite me to stay longer in his house but that would be like faking a life we will never have. That he also thought he could live in my country but maybe after sometime he would like to move back, because he feels he belongs to his country. But he also said he missed me and he doesn’t want to let me go but he doesn’t how we he can be there for me. I am also vey insecure and never really told him I want to try to live in his country or that he moves to mine. I never really say things directly because I always want to be sure about the other person before giving a step forward.

so at this point I’m confused because I would like to be with him and I think maybe if I say things directly he will stop doubting, but i have many doubts myself, but I think if don’t give our relationship a last try I would regret forever