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  • #69568
    Victor
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    I come from a poor background, and I’m still pretty young but for the past couple years the questions “Who am I, and what do I want?” have plagued me because I’m not even sure I can answer them. I came out of a dark place and I was betrayed by the person I loved the most and would have done anything for, and because of that I think I gave up on love. I began to believe that anyone could hurt me at any time, so I shouldn’t be too attached to people. But that’s only the beginning. I began performing better at work but I feel like I lost a part of my soul. I found myself being manipulative and doing the right things for the wrong reasons. I don’t believe in an afterlife and the fear of death drove me to do great things.

    That all changed a few months ago. I had decided a while back that I wanted to be a politician and change the world, and I knew I should start by going to church, because where I live an atheist is very unlikely to get elected. A coworker offered to take me to church with her and her husband and kids, and I obliged, believing that this life of facades and scheming was right for me; That only masters of deception truly made a mark on the world.

    I was wrong. Or at least, I think I was. As I went to church, I grew close to this family, and I can honestly say they were the first people I truly cared about since I was hurt. I felt horrible for lying to them, and I told my coworker that I was still an atheist but I wanted to keep going to church to at least be a part of their lives, a part of the church, and to not forget that there are good people everywhere. She and her family were still happy to take me there and I am even closer to them now. I feel like I did the right thing, and I am happier, but I can’t help but feel like I replaced one problem with another.

    I have slowly become more caring, but I’ve noticed that as I let go of the hate, I lose some drive as well. I still want to make an impact somehow, and I believe that kindness is the best way to do it because history is full of prideful men and conquerors. If I model myself after the likes of Napoleon and Alexander, I may make some difference if I’m lucky, but at the cost of happiness and love. In the same vein, if I try only to be happy, I lose my drive to get in better shape and lead a successful life.

    I just can’t find a balance between being a good, kind person (which is something I want) with being driven and successful (also something I want). I feel like I’m living a paradox but I can’t let go of either side because it all makes up who I am. I can’t see myself as wise and loving but also ambitious, because that seems hypocritical. I know I can be ambitious and successful without being a bad person, but when I succeed (get a promotion, go on a date, obtain power of any sort) pride creeps in, and I lose my compassion.

    #69594
    Anonymous
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    I’m sorry but you really need to re-think your philosophy. To be an atheist yet go to church to suit your own desires of becoming a (powerful) politician is disgusting. You are a global citizen and forgiving your own belief to win the favour of the local community is manipulative and coerce. By even modelling yourself on antiquated dictators is insulting to the intelligence of the people on this forum who are searching for real change in the world. I hope you understand what I am saying and make your own reflection accordingly…

    #69608
    Victor
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    I already said I understand that that was wrong and delusional. I’m not going to church for that reason anymore, I honestly enjoy the community and it’s nice to see other worldviews. At the very least, it’s a good reason to get up early on a Sunday.

    “I just can’t find a balance between being a good, kind person (which is something I want) with being driven and successful (also something I want). I feel like I’m living a paradox but I can’t let go of either side because it all makes up who I am. I can’t see myself as wise and loving but also ambitious, because that seems hypocritical. I know I can be ambitious and successful without being a bad person, but when I succeed (get a promotion, go on a date, obtain power of any sort) pride creeps in, and I lose my compassion.”

    The last part of the post is what I’m struggling with, the first part was just for background. I apologize for any confusion.

    #69610
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    You can have drive and success for positive reasons!
    Look at these people for inspiration… (no religious indoctrination necessary)

    http://www.nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/

    Hope it helps!

    #69612
    Nida
    Participant

    You need to understand what true success is. As you said, that only masters of deception truly make a mark on the world. Where is reality in delusion? Where is success, if being delusional is success in the outside world? What is true success, and where is it, if its not in the outside world?

    Look within. See that the light you need to guide you is not from the outside, but must be found in the inside. Let go of all delusion and ask yourself, what is the meaning of true success? If you really want true success, you will find it, only if you don’t allow your desires for things you don’t really need to get in the way.

    • This reply was modified 10 years ago by Nida.
    #69629
    Adam
    Participant

    Hey man,
    Firstly, know that you will never and have never given up on love. Life without love is the same thing as having DVD’s without a TV. It doesn’t work. The people closest to you have the ability to hurt you the most but would you trade that entire relationship to avoid one bad experience? Think about how much you’ve grown from that relationship, the strength you’re now gaining from suffering from the loss of it, and how much of a better person you now have the opportunity to become because of this experience. Your perception is what is making this experience so much harder. You’re battling with yourself right now and the side of you that wins this fight is the person you’re going to become after it is all said and done.

    As Ghandi said, “If you want to change the world, first change yourself.” Your inner success and happiness is the first step to making that change. Life is a paradox man. Accept that and find balance. It takes effort and hard work to better yourself and it’s only after you’ve taken the first step do you slowly begin to see the benfits.

    thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog. Use it if you need any help.

    Good luck, my friend!

    #69715
    Victor
    Participant

    Thank you so much Adam, I needed to read that. I’m looking at your blog right now.

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