Hi Nevertheless

however everyone in my life makes me feel guilty and like I’m a terrible parent for this.

Guilt – culpable of or responsible for a specified wrongdoing. justly chargeable with a particular fault or error.

From that definition I would argue that quilt isn’t applicable. From your post your daughter is safe and well adjusted and as a parent that’s is what is required of you.

The expectations of others on what they think you should do and be is their problem and frankly sexist. We all want people to accept us and approve of the things we do and its important to be open to such conversations however we can’t let it define us.

The judgment of guilt isn’t appropriate here and if other’s actions and words are leaving you feeling that way the issue isn’t about your co-parenting plan, its about something else. An honest conversation ought to solve the problem however most people aren’t skilled at such conversations especially when family is concerned.

Quite frankly you ought to be able to tell those that you are feeling judgment from to stop, and that should be the end of it.