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  • #293507
    Anonymous
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    When you are visiting those bad people who are mean to your mother, do you try to be mean to them back, to punish them for being mean to your mother?

    anita

    #293509
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita

    I usually just play with my cousin.  We have fun together, and we play away from the adults.  But sometimes if someone is mean, like my aunt – then I feel bad like my mom.  I see them beingmean.

    it is confusing Anita, let’s say we are heading to my aunts house.  my mom is so happy to go, she has been cooped up in the house all week, and says how she is lonely and doesn’t get to go out like other people with a job.  so when we go to my aunts house it is so much fun, and she is happy I have company too with my cousin.  all fine.

    but other times if we go there, my aunt may “taunt” us.  my dad always uses this word so i will use it to.  they taunt us by saying something such as “oh yes youre having so much fun here, isn’t it much better than that big lonely house of yours – you seem to always want to be here instead.”

    this is true maybe, but sad.  then on the way home my mom is sad and mad at that.  so then she changes her mind and says ” we won’t go there anymore!!! why should i be insulted! after all we do for them (my dad always helps them with medical stuff because they don’t have much money) and then i think about how sad it is that theyre like that…

    #293511
    Anonymous
    Guest

    It feels good when you see your mother happy. When you see her happy then you can play with your cousins and be happy too. But when she is sad, you are sad too. And you have to wait until your mother is happy again so that you can be happy too.. do you have to wait for a long time before she is happy again?

    anita

    #293517
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    sometimes I do have to wait, but it isn’t that long (not like a whole week or anything) usually it is just a day or two. often, what I do will make her happy.  Like if I come home from school and we go to the mall.

    Or if I have a friend over at the pool, then she is happy

    #293521
    Anonymous
    Guest

    When you have a friend over at the pool, where is your mother, in the pool with you, is she talking to your friend.. tell me what she does when you have a friend over?

    anita

    #293525
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    My mom sits on the deck with us (she doesn’t swim).

    She talks to my friends a lot, asks them questions – we all talk together.  Sometimes she asks them a lot of quetions, about their mom and life.  and we talk together.  it is fun.

    afterwards she will talk about it all day.  like oh look at kristen, she has so muc hfun with her family.  or oh look at kristen, her mom is divorced and she doesn’t even take kristen anywhere.  or anything.

    my mom gets very involved – and all of my friends love my mom because she has so much fun with us.  we all talk like we are friends – she is funny and silly with us too

    #293529
    Anonymous
    Guest

    You make your mother happy when you bring friends home. And she stays happy for a long time. And when she is not happy anymore, do you look for friends to come over, so to make your mother happy again?

    anita

    #293531
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    My mom always says that summer vacation is too long – because kids get lonely.  In the summer I take out my little phone book, it is cute and small.  I have my friends numbers written in them.  And I start calling people to come over.  I always hope someone can play.

    Sometimes they come over, but sometimes I go over there – if my mom can drive me.  Sometimes my mom says she doesn’t want a mess at home, so we should go play over there “god let their moms clean and make food for once!”

    but – I do look for friends to come over, so that I am not lonely and have company.  because my mom says its good to have company

    #293533
    Anonymous
    Guest

    When you invite friends over, and your mom makes food for your friends, are you worried that she will be upset later on, for making the food and having to clean after?

    anita

    #293543
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    yes I am worried sometimes about this.  that in the moment we are all having fun, even my mom – but later on she will get annoyed and mad.  and say to my dad “look at these girls, they live like its a hotel here. even their friends! what do those girls mothers do?! they relax and enjoy I bet – theyre not slaves like me.”

    #293545
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    as you can see my mother is unpredictable.  after my friend leaves she may get mad that she has to clean up – or even if we didn’t make a mess – she will get mad that the friends mom was out with her friends (and my mom doesnt have any good friends)

    or she will be so happy she will say – oh look what a great day we had! see, its great that kristen came over! we had so much fun with her and we laughed so much! see how fun it is when someone comes over, if she didn’t what would we have done all day?!

    #293553
    Anonymous
    Guest

    When you bring friends over, do you watch them to see that they don’t make a mess, do you tell them to  not make a mess?

    anita

    #293557
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    I am messy too Anita – my mom always says how I am the messy one in the family.  Sometimes I don’t care and we are having fun.  but other times I watch them and make sure, or else my mom will get mad.  if we ruin something nice of hers she will get mad too.

    sometimes I think like my mom “look at them making a mess in our house, if it was their house they would be more careful. how rude”

    #293559
    Anonymous
    Guest

    To have friends is a good thing and a bad thing, it makes mom happy and angry and then happy again and sad and angry … is it scary to not know how long her happy will last, are you afraid not knowing when she stops being happy and starts being mad?

    anita

    #293561
    Cali Chica
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    It is often unpredictable yes. I don’t know if I am scared – I don’t know.  What  I do know is that my mom tries her best to be happy, but she can’t help it sometimes because she had a hard life

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