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  • #50635
    Lorelie
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    You sound a lovely guy and one day maybe the right person will come along but hey, maybe they won’t!
    The answer is to learn to feel fulfilled and happy with just yourself & not have that contentment reliant on other things….i.e. girlfriend, job, relationships. I am VERY old (LOL!) and have only just realised this secret…. after a few disastrous relationships where I looked for that other person to ‘make’ me happy.
    After a long, long struggle with life I have finally seen the light! I am working at doing what I want, spending time with friends whose company I enjoy and NOT chasing that elusive dream and amazingly I am the happiest & most optimistic I have ever been.
    Tomorrow may never come…. you need to appreciate and enjoy each day in it’s own right. One day you will look up and find everything has fallen into place and you are where you want to be!
    Tiny Buddha, Baggage Reclaim and similar websites do offer articles to help understand your feelings. As they used to say ‘count your blessings’ corny but true.
    Don’t be so hard on yourself, be kind…. I hope you eventually achieve inner contentment.

    #50745
    gabrielle
    Participant

    Keisuke, in our lifetime the average person will see 15,000 sunrises. Though the sunrise happens everyday, some days we don’t see it; i.e. over-sleeping, sleeping in, getting ready for work. Some way something is interfering with us seeing this beacon of hope, of a new day, not just a new day but a day that has never been experienced before in history; same numbers, same names, different day. I believe that since we’re human we tend to transfer events that occurred from a certain time duration into these new sunrises and we forget to keep the day as it should be, new and never experienced before. Dude, it sucks to have break-ups, they can bang up your self-esteem and send you into a search. I personally believe that we will have what we are meant to have and what we aren’t is for a reason. Your reason is out there, the idea is, is that you must go out and experience life; which is what you are doing. Life is learning. You’re were learning about relationships and setting up schemas in your mind? Now it’s time to learn more- not necessarily negative scenarios but learning. Think about it, what did you learn from these experiences? What you deserve or don’t deserve? What can you work on? What qualities you like in a woman? What qualities a woman likes in you. In the Tao of Pooh, the author speaks of the uncarved block. Elizabeth Reninger from about.com puts it this way “The Chinese word “Pu” is often translated as “the uncarved block,” and refers to a state of pure potential which is the primordial condition of the mind before the arising of experience. The Taoist concept of Pu points to perception without prejudice”. In other words we must take the good in with the bad, the sunset with the sunrise and realize that there is beauty and experience and learning in both. This Valentines Day, I am single as well but I will be spending it, not in search of a date but with my friends and some family. Everything else, I will await patiently and be happy in my day and do meaningful things that not only make me feel fulfilled and happy but others as well, volunteer, help a friend or family member, keep up your hobbies or buy a pet. You’ll learn yourself and master your emotions and self and awareness and eventually you’ll see the rays of the sunrise and you’ll be with that one you’ve been looking for. Meantime enjoy life and TRY NEW THINGS. GET OUT THERE, THE WORLD WON’T WAIT FOR YOU FOREVER. HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

    #50819
    Annie P
    Participant

    Dear Keisuki,

    I’m so sorry that you are feeling sad. I believe that what these 2 ladies have said is great advice. I understand your loneliness – try to find ways to comfort yourself and create your own happiness. You have the capacity to do that.

    Warm Regards,
    Annie

    #50870
    Keisuke
    Participant

    Thank you everyone. I think I’ll try living in the moment a bit more. Since I do have a big interview I was pretty stressed about it. I guess I was looking too much at others and not trying to make myself happy. I’m glad everyone is so positive and supportive here, it’s almost a rare instance to find something like this online. So I will try to do more to feel better instead of wallowing in my sorrows.

    I guess a lot more searching for what really makes me happy. Thanks again!

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