Great to have these forums on TB!

I’ve had a recent insight in my life. For a long, long time I have sought the approval of my older and very disinterested brother. For whatever reason, we have never connected and have little contact with each other. Yet, I have tried and tried over the years to impress him, be friends with him, hope that we can act like “brothers” (we are acting like a lot brothers, of course).

At any rate, I have realized that seeking the approval of someone who will never approve is the SAME THING as seeking rejection!

With that realization I let it all go. I am more free to be me without trying to impress him. I can let him do whatever with his life without pretending to be interested. We aren’t close. Trying to be close with him is a big set up for rejection. I have experienced it too many times now not to call a spade a spade.

Are you seeking rejection from anyone?