Hi All,
Wanted to gather some much needed objective thoughts on my relationship issue..

I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years, I am a Christian and she is a Muslim. Just to give a perspective, the social norm at least for my parent’s generation was to have arranged marriages within the same religions, community etc etc. In fact, before the relationship I thought the same would be true for me as well ( and I was vocal about it 🙂 )

Talk about life flipping things around 180 degree!

My girlfriends love’s me a lot, cares for me, worries for me, everything. For me on the other hand, the passion has NOT been to the same degree. I respect her for her strong qualities, I care for her and I do like her – but, its not the same as Love.

Add to this the fact that my parents are opposed to an inter religion marriage and believe that cultural similarities are a must for the success of a marriage – my confusion starts.

I keeping weighing in the pros and cons, but this does not help provide clarity – the doubts keep persisting. If I do go ahead and marry the girl, it would be against my family’s wishes. It would also not be easy maintaining relationships with the girls’ family ( due to cultural differences ).

If I do not go ahead, it would leave my girlfriend heart broken. She is also clear if our relationship doesn’t work out, she would rather stay single ( and she means it )

My inclination is to go ahead with the marriage because I know the girl loves me tremendously and I can’t see her get hurt. But then I would have to rise above my insecurities – fear of my parent’s rejections / hurt, handling cultural differences etc

Apologies for the long winded letter, looking forward to hearing from you all.. Thnx !