Hi
So I am about to get divorced. I am very unhappy about it. I have known my husband for 29 years. We have been married about 6 years. Prior to that it was a very long distance relationship. He is from England and I am from the US. We dated when I was 19 and he was 20. I was visiting England when we met. I came back home and we kept in touch for 21 years through phone calls and letters. He wrote to me all the time. I thought I was marrying the man I always loved. I thought I knew him. I didn’t. Fast forward and he is actually addicted to alcohol and is always angry. I understand the things that happened to him as a child lead to his behaviors. I believed he had a good heart. He has put up so many walls around his heart that no one can get in. I tried to help him in every way I could think of … He didn’t want help. He left me to live a block away above the bar back in March. We continued to spend time together and speak but to no avail. I had asked him to move out last November in hopes that he would want to get help for his addiction. It didn’t work. He became more angry with me. He blamed me for not wanting him to go to the bar all the time. He blamed me for “making him go to therapy to talk about his family issues”. We went to therapy twice. So here I am heartbroken. I keep praying for God to open his heart to healing. I know I am probably being foolish. I don’t know what to do. I am working on improving things in my life. I am trying to let go but it hasn’t worked. I know it is out of my hands. What should I do? He filed divorce papers in July and then said he was going to withdraw them a month later. He is not legally allowed to do this. The papers need to be signed Oct. 5th. He is currenlty away for his work in Italy. He will return the end of October. I plan on signing the papers as that is what he said he wants. I haven’t heard a word from him since he left a month ago. I changed my phone number as I didn’t want him to text or call anymore because it was never for anything good. I understand he can’t call but if he really wanted to he could write to me as he used to do. I don’t know how you cut someone out of your life so harshly after 29 years. My therapist said my ex is a narcissist. UGH! Help!