Rumor at work that I cheated, but I didn’t

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August 23, 2018 at 8:29 am #222665

Hazel
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I need some advice:

Months ago my manager (Jose) was let go for having sex with my coworker (Danielle). I’m the one who went to my general manager with the information that these 2 people were having sex which is against company policy. A few weeks ago a different coworker said that he heard that Jose was fired for having sex with me. I said bluntly that people need to get their facts straight, Jose was fired for having sex with Danielle and I was just the person who told upper management. Upon hearing this concerning rumor, I immediately went to my managers to see what I should do. They said that there isn’t much.

my concern is that I’m married and I’m paranoid that my husband will hear this rumor. I told him about Danielle and Jose, he knows I informed management and Jose was fired months ago. My husband’s last relationship ended because his ex had an affair with her boss, so I’m afraid if he hears this he will believe it.

What should I do? Tell him nothing with a chance that he may hear it from someone else? Or tell him about this ludicrous rumor and risk planting a seed of doubt in his mind?

August 23, 2018 at 10:26 am #222751

Anonymous
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Dear Hazel:

I would tell him because it concerns you, it is on your mind, something you worry about. If you tell him, say it in as casual a manner as it is possible for you, yet stating to him that this is distressing to you.

anita

August 24, 2018 at 12:15 pm #222887

mamaof2kids
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I agree with Anita I would just tell him! It’s very unfair to you that this rumor is going around, but I think it would actually take a lot of stress off you if you tell him! And as Anita said just say it causally if you act worked up then he might sense some doubt! I think we have all been the center of a rumor in some shape and form and it’s not fun!

August 25, 2018 at 8:23 am #223003
Brandy
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Hi Hazel,

I would tell your husband everything. Out of curiosity, how do you know for sure that Jose and Danielle were having sex?

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- This reply was modified 6 years, 4 months ago by Brandy.
August 25, 2018 at 11:36 am #223045
Hazel
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Because they both told me that they were having sex. I work in a restaurant and Danielle was my friend. She said at the end of her shifts each day, Jose would delete all her cash transactions so she could keep all of the money. I didn’t care about the work romance, but the stealing was bothering me. That’s why I went to upper management. There was already a rumor circulating that they were dating. I just confirmed it it by showing all of Danielle’s texts.

I should also clarify that my husband doesn’t work with me, but his office is in the same shopping complex and he visits me often at work
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August 26, 2018 at 4:50 am #223079

Anonymous
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Dear Hazel:

Jose, your former manager, and Danielle, your former co-worker and friend had a sexual relationship that extended to Jose stealing money from the business and giving it to Danielle, sort of, to display his gratitude to her. Jose told you he was having sex with Danielle, and Danielle told you she was having sex with Jose and that he was stealing money from the restaurant and giving the money to her. I suppose they both felt comfortable sharing with you their behaviors which were against company policy, and Danielle sharing with you an illegal activity.

At one point, months ago, you approached an upper manager of the restaurant and told him, or her, not (?) that Jose and Danielle were stealing money from the business, but that they were having sex. Both were fired.

What an interesting story, leading me to wonder about these things: did you report the stealing? If not, why not? How did Jose and Danielle, separately, respond to you going to upper management? Are you still in contact with either one of them? And did you tell your husband?

I don’t expect that you answer all my questions, born out of curiosity. Restaurants are a very interesting place to work in, the coming and going of customers, different people, interactions all day long, a delightful place of work, I think.

anita
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