Hi Helcat,

To an extent yes. We had a good thing going but because I didnt establish anything even tho it felt like gf and bf, she felt like crap, she wasnt feeling it anymore for about a month and I argued at times and that kind of behavior triggered her past abusive relationship. The fact that I did two solo trips asking her to come but our interest werent aligning and her just taking no for an answer when she didnt ask more than once to go to the movies (very vague) led her to just go out with someone else and feel the infatuation she feeels whenever she probably meets a new person. we kept talking it out and maybe that pushed her away, i gave her space but even tho we had great chemistry, she keeps seeing the new guy and ive asked another time to go to a cafe and she said she has work. She pretends to act interested and then says she has to do something else. At this point it just seems like ive put myself out there again, even vibing and trying to fight for her attention when I never was introduced to any of her friends and i worked hard to build a relationship, whether romantic or platonic that she doesnt value. She is just drifting further away and it just seems like even our great chemistry and joking ways that she was attracted to arent even gonna last to be  a frienship. like i barely ask to hang out and she is making excuses or already has plans with him. I can only try so much. I am also just slowly talking to other ppl. A person with her background that can change her world around that quickly is dangerous, just cuz she was in abusive relationship she isnt entitled to just push her bitch ways to other ppl. It isnt revenge.  and people arent pawns. If she had just told me her feelings were over and saw another person it would have been fine.

Seems like she had planned this out because this type of thing doesnt happen overnight. She just did it the minute i left town. At this point i dont know what to say but just that she can make time for everyone else but me. Whichis sending a clear message, that she was ready to lose me as a friend and or/partner the moment she went out with someone else. I have to tell her how it is regardless if she thinks its agressive, At this point, it isnt some fling, she just is disrescpecting me as a preson. And she can do whatever she likes but literally its sad how easily she was able to throw it away.  I know I am hugely at fault, I called her pain by not making her #1 in her eyes and her confidence wavered and she might have felt triggered at times. But if cant communicate these things, the cycle will repeat itself; people arent psychics. I am someone who can read ppl pretty well but women are different breed and can mask their emotions very well at times. Thanks for listening, cheers