Relationship problems with ex.

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December 30, 2017 at 9:29 am #184433

Anonymous
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Dear Dexter:

Life happened while you were waiting for the six year relationship woman. She took her time, had other priorities and did not join you in your new country.

She had other priorities.

And you, a young man, were not satisfied with a long-distance-relationship. You needed a woman with you, physically. And so, life happened.

It seems to me that it is time for you to move on from those six years of the past. Your present life is different now. You have a new girlfriend, for a whole one year at this point. If you are indeed this current girlfriend’s priority, if she has been on your side and by your side this whole time and you indeed love her, then stay with her.

Let the past be in the past, and live now.

anita

December 30, 2017 at 3:30 pm #184445
Peter
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A song comes to mind “Why do you have to go and make things so complicated?” – Avril Lavigne No wonder your lost. Trying not to hurt anyone so everyone gets hurt. Is it possible that a part of you likes the drama created by keeping the woman in your life a little off balance? You don’t mention how these woman might feel about this situation – its possible that there is no choice for you to make and that when they find out, and they will, both say hell no I deserve better.

This is going to sound blunt however its possible your not ready for authentic relationship. If you can’t be honest with your partner then something is wrong. Is the pain your trying to avoid is your own?
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December 31, 2017 at 7:46 am #184471

Eliana
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Hi Dexter,

I don’t have much to add, but it really does not have to be so complicated and confusing. I think you like a little “excitement” in your life, and there is nothing wrong with that, but in my own experience, it can really harm relationships..a constant need for excitement, chaos, etc. I will use a quote, because it is so very true. If a man and a woman are meant to be together, they will be together. Period. I hope you have a Happy New Year.

December 31, 2017 at 10:41 pm #184541

Dexter
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Hi guys, Thanks for all the answers.

You are right ” If a man and a woman are meant to be together, they will be together.”

For now, It’s time to move on and as you said: “life happened”.I was guilty because it’s hard to be alone in a different country and I just don’t want that she suffer as much as I did before here.

Anyway, I can still help as a friend and try my new life.

Thanks and happy new year.

January 1, 2018 at 3:53 am #184547

Anonymous
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Dear Dexter:

You are welcome. If you help your ex girlfriend as a friend, I hope you make sure she knows that you have another girlfriend now, and that she respects you as not her boyfriend, as well as respecting your current girlfriend. Post again if you’d like.

And Happy New Year to you too.

anita
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