Livesimple,

If your only thoughts were for him and his happiness, there would not be the stress arising. Perhaps the truth is you are feeling insecure, and want assurance of his caring for you? It might be helpful to realize “I miss him” and leave it at the longing. You seem to be turning that yearning into a fantasy about him.

When we love someone, we can feel insecure about whether the love is returned. So, we seek their assurance consistently. Instead, we can be the love we wish to see returned. Said differently “I love you and miss you, I hope you’re having a ton of fun.”

He’s on vacation, which can be disorienting and pull us out of routines. It doesn’t indicate anything else, that is all internal.

With warmth,
Matt

LiveSimple, I’m a lot like you! My partner and I have very different communication styles and sometimes I find I want more from him that he will give me. I get miffed when I text him goodnight and he doesn’t text me goodnight back. If I text him a question, sometimes he won’t reply for hours and I start internally raging at him. But I recognize that I get this way because of how we approach technology; I am glued to my smartphone 24/7 and my partner sometimes leaves his in the car overnight without realizing it! The only way I found to somewhat solve the problem was to outright tell him: “hey, I really appreciate it when you get back to me in a timely manner, can you do more of that?” It’s positive reinforcement! But I also accept that some people are okay with a far less frequency of communication.

On the flip side of the coin, when I go home to visit my family I am waaaaay less concerned with being in touch with him. During a regular week we will text every night and see each other all weekend, but if I visit my parents I basically am unreachable because YAY FAMILY. Especially during travel it’s hard to keep up routines.