Dear Louise:

I read the term “toxic person” used a lot but I don’t like it. Reading your post, it doesn’t seem to me that your past behavior is a permanent lifetime behavior on your part. Doesn’t read to me that you were born with a “toxic” label on you, a tattoo of sorts.

I believe we earn our self forgiveness over behaviors such as you described by learning all we can and changing our behaviors so that we no longer harm others, and when possible, we help others.

This path of learning and healing is the path of earning one’s self forgiveness, I believe. Reads to me that you are on that path.

I hope you post again.

anita