Dear Pui Tin:

I like what you posted very much, an excellent chapter on give-and-take assertive communication. This is what it leaves me with: it is okay to reject a gift, but better do  it immediately, not procrastinating, and do it in a way that is not rude. When I give a gift to another and it is rejected, it doesn’t mean that I am rejected. It means that the gift is rejected, and that the thought of receiving it made the receiver uncomfortable.

But what if the giver is the mother, giving a gift to her child, and the child feels uncomfortable, what is a child to do?

anita