My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me suddenly about 6 weeks ago. I was really shocked. The day before I was telling my sister I wanted to make our relationship a serious one. That I thought we had what it takes to grow and be positive influences in each others life. I have been in my fair share of relationships that ended, I have always communicated well with my partners, when we broke up no one was surprised and both parties knew we had tried and almost all were mutual. I am on friendly terms with most my exes. But in this case, I was left dumbfounded, hurt and confused. Not once had she mentioned that she was unhappy/ or any indication that something was wrong and body language was incredibly positive. We had not really had any disagreements and she even said I was everything she had looked for. She was what I was looking for in turn. After the break up I took about 3 weeks of no contact to collect myself. And we had a dinner that was pleasant and we fell back into easy and fun conversation. My natural instinct is to fight fiercely for this relationship. I waited along time for something like this and I want it still. I am denying that, and going with the flow. Everyday I tell myself I want someone who wants to be with me. I do however love this girl deeply and she has some struggles ahead with coming out and being vulnerable in general. I think she needs a friend ( her friends that know shes gay all live far away) and I want her light in my life. I am working on balancing my desire for her and being a genuine friend. I recognize that this has the potential to not go well. And I want to make sure this is healthy for myself and her. Anybody successfully done this?

• This topic was modified 8 years ago by Christine.
• This topic was modified 8 years ago by Christine.