Dear Seaturtle

It appears that you have met a gentle kind man, who supports your choices and is physically compatible, Yet this is not enough for you. you want to have your sense of self also massaged & pampered by him. Maybe you could swap him for someone who alternates between shallowly love bombing you and ghosting you!  You have a great base to grow & nurture a relationship that most people wold give their eye teeth for – it could also be that his lack of vocalising his emotions/ feelings could possibly be down to having a very mild version of autism who knows.

Dear Seaturtle

No-one person can fulfill all our different needs all of the time & even if they could they would probably not want to be with us!

I have been in relationships where having a spiritual life was important and they still fizzled out romantically ( but we are still very good friends).

Although I have taken a vow of celibacy I also have the vow “May I have integrity in all my relationships” basically anyone I encounter (physically & electronically etc) comes under this heading.

I know I am fortunate that I have a varied set of friends, each contribute in their own different ways to our relationship, that way none of us become a burden and we support ourselves, each other and other people.

I hope that your spiritual journey will improve all areas of your life.

regards Roberta