Dear NamesAreOverrated:

First, my concern about your brother possibly sexually abusing children now or in the future:

He didn’t mention to you what he did and didn’t ask for your forgiveness. You were the  one confronting him. When you did he told you how he was abused in a camp. As if that justified his abuse of you (and will justify future abuse of children)…?

People abuse others following having  been abused themselves, in most cases, if not all. In some cartoons and movies, cruel people, or bad people, are depicted as happy people who are bad. In reality, cruel people are hurting people. And so, do we say: because this person is hurting, it is okay for him/ her  to pass on the hurt, to pass on the cruelty? No. Abuse has to  stop, to be stopped.

If your brother excused his abuse  of you by bringing up his own, he may abuse others, as an adult. You may want to consider protecting those others somehow. Let me know of your thoughts in regard to him, will you?

Second: you watching images as the child that you were is  indeed in the past. Fortunately, you didn’t hurt another person. I don’t see a reason to disclose this. Definitely not to your parents because they … somehow did not see what was happening with you and your brother as children, somehow they didn’t see the distress… maybe caused much distress in him and  in you. What do you think?

In regard to your last line: I have  no interest to give you a hard time, to cause you to suffer: that would be cruel of me. Look at the guilt that you feel- it would make sense to feel it only if there is something you can do to correct some injustice. And then, the guilt should be gone, once you did what  you can do. Telling others what you watched  when you were a child does not correct any injustice. I hope you let this issue go. Perhaps you can do something regarding your brother, to correct some injustice being done to another child or to future children.

anita