You could try to do whatever relaxation exercises you do to feel really calm and secure, and then bringing this person to mind. Try not to get involved in your inner narrative about things they did or said or what you should do or whatever. Just imagine a really simple interaction. Just saying hello, how are you. Probably imagining it will make you a little more nervous. When you feel nervous, drop the fantasy and go back to breathing or imagining light or whatever you do, until you feel calm again.

Rehearse just saying hello to them, in your mind, over and over, until it’s boring. You can also remind yourself you will handle this one way or another, that they have no power over you anymore, that you’re not going to get hurt, and that you’re doing better than you were.

Congratulations on getting out of a relationship that wasn’t working and getting a handle on your anxiety. You’re doing well. Keep climbing.

Maybe you have a long way to go or just maybe you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Consider exploring why you experienced so much anxiety in the relationship and hang in there!! We are all a work in progress 🙂