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  • September 5, 2017 at 10:52 am #167050
    Anonymous
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    Dear Shawn995:

    Your “need to take care of (your) family” is adding to your anxiety, isn’t it? If you didn’t have that need, that sense of duty, to take care of your grandmother and mother, would you feel lighter, less burdened, and less afraid?

    anita

    September 5, 2017 at 11:43 pm #167284
    Shawn995
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    I think it would loosen up my anxieties, yes, since as far as i know, even when i was about 11 years old , the question about what would i need to do to help my family, am i capable of doing something…even than that was the thought that i was steering my life  and my energy towards to, even tho i did not now that..i was never really driven by my wishes and desires or interests, and my self esteem was over the years just negatively reinforced by my own thoughs to the point that i really feel uncapable of doing anything right, that i dont know what woud i like from life, and whats best for me….i am trying to reason with myself (my mind) that i can actually do, i can actually make something of my life, but when its time for a decision and action, my reasoning narrows, and my emotions and discouraging thoughs are exploading . , So yeah, i am really scared. And thanks Anita for taking your time , it meant to me a lot

     

    September 6, 2017 at 12:15 pm #167412
    Hopefaith
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    It’s all in your mind you there people who don’t have families or face and live worse life but still they try one at a time you are lucky that all your body parts are working and you can do a normal and your relative has offered opportunity to you to make your life better……just stop thinking when you start thinking watch a funny video or inspirational video like butterfly boy I am sure if you watch butterfly boy video you will indeed think you are lucky and if he can live and try to make his life better why can’t I with so much to have……just grab that job opportunity and take one day at time…..

    September 6, 2017 at 2:25 pm #167458
    Anonymous
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    Dear Shawn995:

    It will be good for you to lessen your anxieties, to not worry about helping your family, to not even try to help them, not at all, but instead worry about yourself, take care of yourself. When do you get the chance to live your own life? When do you become important enough to be number one in your life?

    What about your wishes, your desires, your interests (“i was never really driven by my wishes and desires or interests“)-

    What if you were driven by your wishes and desires and interests?

    And what if you knew what is best for you … and then went about to do what is best for you?

    You will be less scared if there was someone to take care of you. And who can be that someone, if not you.

    anita

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