Dear Kait:

I didn’t understand the part of him making “insinuating comments” about his fb; what comments? And what are his manipulative behaviors you mentioned in the last few lines of your post?

What I do understand is that what bothers you (understandably)  is that he flirted with other women on fb, presenting himself as single while in relationship with you and he watched too much porn on his computer. The two of you argued about it and he suggested deleting his fb account and no longer watching any porn. You don’t like this solution because you are okay with him keeping his fb, only not flirting, and you are okay with him watching porn, only not so much of it. Am I correct?

Waiting for your reply so I can have information needed to form an opinion (which is what you are asking for).

anita

I totally agree with you that it’s HIS choice whether he deletes his facebook and stop watching porn.  He decided that was the best course of action, and it is not very nice or mature of him to try to make you feel guilty because of it!

Perhaps he felt your comments were threatening somehow?  Maybe he thought you’d judge him, hurt his feelings, so fought back by being mean about it?

Anyway – you deserve a grown-up version of him, who makes an effort to listen and doesn’t try to make you feel guilty.  If he won’t do that then you deserve someone else.