Great now I have Brittney Spears stuck in my head! 🙂

My goodness, sounds like you have a lot going on, and it’s no doubt overwhelming. There have been times in my life where it seemed like everything was falling apart too. The only thing that helped pull me through these difficult seasons was 1) repeating the words my grandmother loved to say to us, “this too shall pass” (very wise…everything is impermanent…I think she was a secret Buddhist!) 2) taking on one issue at a time (this can sometimes take great discipline – you may need to mentally compartmentalize things for later) and 3) ask for help! It’s rare that anyone can tackle job changes, martial strains, issues with parents, etc. on their own. Talk to friends or a therapist. Support is so important. Quite honestly I would make reaching out to someone first on your to-do list.

Glad you were able to rant, and I hope what I had to say helped or provided comfort.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 9 months ago by Miniature Bodhisattva.

Dear Felix:

Key word: overwhelmed. You are overwhelmed: the economics of living in LA, the materialistic, greedy, selfish society, the repeating brink of separation from your wife, your dog, global events…

You wrote: ” I take everything close to heart and I feel so alone and don’t know what to do”-

There is a compromise and as I see it, in between not caring about anything and caring about everything. The compromise is to shrink your head some so that you care only about the few issues you can do something about right now. Take One Step at a Time, having just the next moment, hour, day in mind. For now.

Prioritize: what is the most important two things for you right now? What can you do today to make your life a little bit better long term?

anita

Dear Felix:

Like you wrote in a previous thread: you are not an idiot (your words). And I agree. You can think logically, you are qualified for a good job, as qualified, I imagine, as your friends to whom you compare yourself.

There is one thing that is holding you back, as I see it, and I am not referring to Luck. I think that what is holding you back, what is draining you every day- in addition to the life circumstances you described, such as unemployment- is you giving yourself a hard time. I can almost “hear” that inner critic of yours telling yourself these negative things, making negative evaluations about you, even calling yourself “an idiot”-

This abusive inner critic, or as I call it, the inner bully is draining you. It makes everything more difficult. If you take on the task of changing the way you talk to yourself, being kind and gentle to yourself, life will be better for you, I have no doubt. Only it takes willingness, hard work and patience.

anita

Dear Felix:

You are stuck. I hope soon enough you will see something new in your life, in your situation, some hope for a change. And then you will have that jump-start that you need to get unstuck.

anita