GO!

Sigh… I know I shouldn’t tell you what to do. It’s your life and you have our support regardless. But it’s been 14 years. You might want things to be different, but you’ve known him long enough to really SEE who he is. Two weeks of silent treatment is ridiculous. And I’m the type of person who “needs space” to get my thoughts in order. Two weeks is pure manipulation and spite. And it’s just plain shitty.

Once you go, you are going to doubt your decision. That’s expected and normal. Accept it. You’re going to have moments or days of crying and sadness. Let yourself experience it. Those emotions DON’T mean that you made the wrong decision. It’s going to be hard to get back on your feet and it’s going to take a while. BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF. You have a place to stay; you have a job lined up. You can make that work. Give it time.

And keep doing all the things that heal your soul. It will help you get to a better place and to recognize good when it comes your way. It will also help you recognize bad situations when they come your way (so you don’t repeat this type of relationship).

You’ll be okay. You’ll land on your feet. Trust yourself. You deserve better.