Dear Dina:

My thinking on this: Shopping for organizational tools so to organize items you own is about decreasing clutter and confusion and increasing neatness and clarity. When you place an item in a box it is safe there and so are you. You know where it is and can access it. There is safety in that. Organizing, decreasing clutter and increasing order: there is safety in order.

anita

G’Day Dina,

I agree with Anita, with organisation comes the knowledge that everything has it’s place, where you know it’s safe and waiting for you. Right now, by posting here, your mind is trying to ‘consciously’ figure out what it’s been up to ‘unconsciously’. You mention your ex, so reflect on the circumstances when you began buying ‘crap’ back then, is there a pattern? Right now, try to step outside of yourself, look around yourself and within yourself and do a manual check; is it work? what’s happening at work? Is it because of this……that….? Maybe you will notice something a miss. It could also be a preemptive. Maybe you’re worried about something and you are buying these things as not a way to organize but a way to distract yourself from whatever reality your not consciously aware of?
What do you think?

Sincerely,
Matty

Dear Dina:

I think so, you need to have a sense that you are in control of something! You are not in control over how long a contract will last, if it will be renewed..You have no control over your family members’ health problems… or your own. You have little control over the different spaces in your home, how they are used, who comes in and out. So you make an area where you do have control: “Here is where I put my makeup. Here it is. I know where it is because I put it there… and it stays there!

We are all afraid. Because danger is real. We try not to see it, to build safe houses where we can be safe ….safer, make laws so we are safe… safer, order people around, control people so we are …safer. Make more and more money so to be safer. So much of what people do is chasing that feeling of safety, only danger is real. When we think about it, we notice it and get scared. But it is there whether we think of it or not. It takes courage to realize life is dangerous and all we can do is increase our statistical chances to live a healthy, safer life.

anita