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  • December 22, 2015 at 12:26 am #90253
    who
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    Once again I’m going to start off by saying Thanks! to all who read..

    I was just recalling on how sometimes I forget about others and get all caught up in self!
    Meaning: that I talk and worry a lot about my own issues, forgetting that I’m not the only one going through tough times.
    There are countless numbers of people, different shapes, sizes, cultures, colors, young, old, healthy, or not so healthy etc.
    The point is that we all go through things, some good or some bad…maybe even horrible stuff.
    At times without us being unconsciously aware, we sincerely forget to ask others how are you doing???
    Not with just words coming out of our mouths, but also with open ears, ready to really listen.

    Because myself can be guilty of that at times. Being caught up in the moment.
    Which again made me think, about how when we are kids, we use to play tag.
    When I was young, for me playing tag, the objective was to tag (If you wur the tagger) and if not, to (run) if you wur the runner in order to not get caught…

    But now as an adult, I realized that I had it all backwards.
    Meaning: That whoever the tagger was, friend or some random kid in your class.
    Had already pre-thought or was thinking about you!
    So they chased you, tagged you, both displays of (ACCEPTANCE) which is the tag…and the other (AFFECTION) which is the chase and pre-thought about you, hoping that you will show it in return by tagging them back!

    So with all of this in mind, I want to play a little game with all who reply back to this post.
    It’s called ( NOT ABOUT ME – TAG YOU’RE IT! )…

    These are the RULES
    1) You Tag someone by saying (I WAS REALLY THINKING ABOUT YOU -put the username of that person-..AND END IT WITH HOW ARE YOU DOING?)
    Example: I was really thinking about you CASEY, how are you doing?

    2) You can only reply back when someone ask how are you doing? because that’s the point, of not being in self.

    3) To anyone who gets asked how are you doing, you can reply back anyway you want, but it has to be in the NOW, NOT PAST. Please express
    yourself! Doesn’t matter sad or happy, dark, light, or even mad, because that’s the only way this will work!

    4) Last when you are ending on your reply back, PLEASE FINISH BY ASKING SOMEONE (I WAS REALLY THINKING ABOUT YOU! HOW ARE YOU DOING?)
    please don’t forget to put in their username..
    When doing so, please involve not just people you know on Tiny Buddha on regular basis, but also welcome newcomers…because we all
    are and were there..
    THANK YOU!
    my goal is to get at least 20-50 replies back! who knows it just might save someones life! or create smiles!

    • This topic was modified 8 years, 10 months ago by who.
    December 22, 2015 at 12:28 am #90254
    who
    Participant

    I was really thinking about you Jack. How are you doing?

    December 22, 2015 at 9:03 am #90273
    Anonymous
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    Dear who:

    Very well articulated post, another one! It reminds me a bit of Monopoly we talked about last night. Problem with games involving many rules, I lose focus, do not follow: it is difficult for me to follow game rules. Remember and follow. I don’t think you will get so many replies because even though it says on the website there are a million or so followers or readers, I don’t know where they all are…

    People ask How are You? As if it was a hick up, blurted out with no intent on asking or listening to an answer. So people answer I am Fine with no intent on answering the question. It is a hick up one way and a hick up back. Sometimes when I do answer the one “asking” is stunned, like a deer caught in the headlight. Therefore when you preface the question with “I was really thinking about you”- that is a good way to move the question from a hick up status to a … real question.

    Now, I am really thinking about you, who. How are you doing?

    anita

    December 22, 2015 at 12:12 pm #90295
    who
    Participant

    To: Anita I understand about the rules thing in games. But I feel that if anyone truly reads the ones that I wrote, they are not so hard to follow, very very simple..even if no one replies back it is okay with me.

    And right now I’m not so okay!
    Looking for a job is stating to be frustrating. I fill many apps out online every day. But only to receive spam calls back early in the morning. a spam call I say because when filling apps out online, you must use your email and phone number incase a job is interested in hiring you. Instead of it being the actual job I applied for, it’s some stupid 3rd party asking me questions I don’t want to answer nor care about.
    Frustrating! because when I answer the phone it seems like I will have a job , but nothing!
    And to top it off, I always check my emails, but only to find no replies back or spam spam spam..Or what jobs are hiring in my area, that I have already filled out!

    I’ve been out of a job for almost 3 weeks now!
    Went to a place to fill out an app, interview, and nothing! just a waiting game, playing with my mind.

    Not about me! I WAS REALLY THINKING ABOUT YOU ANITA, HOW ARE YOU DOING?

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 10 months ago by who.
    December 22, 2015 at 2:14 pm #90305
    Anonymous
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    Dear who:

    Before I consider the game, I was thinking about you this morning, I was thinking: who must have a tough day looking for a job, frustrated and here I read it. Not a rocket science on my part to predict you had a tough day, such is the nature of looking for a job and being in not the greatest circumstances.

    Now regarding the game, let me re-read…okay, so you tagged me as far as I can tell and now I have to answer (“of not being in self you wrote, i don’t understand) anyway, I have to reply in the now:

    I am a bit too warm, a bit stressed. Too full, worried I am too fat. Smell of corn bread in the air and guests are about to arrive, I don’t like guests anymore. I am keeping my sweater on because I don’t want to be seen by the guests in my t shirt, but am too warm…. Wait, let me see if I can get more comfortable…I just took my socks off so to get cooler. I still feel distressed. Too full, had lunch, my anxiety is a bit up.

    Now, I need to choose someone else to tag… can’t be you because you just tagged me, Jack, you tagged him but he didn’t answer yet, we haven’t been talking to anyone else so I don’t feel comfortable calling anyone else, it was the three of us playing around like kids, what if others feel too… grown up?

    I don’t know where to go from here…

    anita

    December 22, 2015 at 4:35 pm #90316
    jock
    Participant

    I wasn’t really thinking about you, WHO. As usual, I was thinking about myself first. 🙂
    How are you today?

    I think your intention is good. Starting a chat thread? I am maybe the worst offender when it comes to asking how the other is, making conversation, so your reminder is useful.
    Anita probably thinks I am rude and unfriendly sometimes, not asking how she is faring. I am not noted for my small talk ability. But I shall try harder now.

    Well, rather than….How is who? how about…..Who is who? I believe who and Jack are more than their current situation. They are potential heroes in a bestseller novel. What will the next chapter reveal? This novel has so many twists and turns. So unpredictable. But I firmly believe there is a happy ending in store for both. They will be at peace one day. Finally confronting their own self-doubt, their inner demons. They mightn’t make a huge impact on a lot of people. One or two is enough. Quality over quantity. Amen.

    Sorry to hear about your job-hunting.

    December 22, 2015 at 7:33 pm #90327
    Anonymous
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    * Dear Jack: No, I never thought you were rude and please don’t bother with small talk with me! You know I like big talk. I concur that Jack is more than his current situation and not only a potential hero but an actual hero. Not of a bestselling novel but of real life! By the way, you asked yesterday if it snows yet and after you asked it snowed for the first time this winter, last night at midnight I saw the snow falling down slowly in the silence of the night. Wait, what novel are you talking about? Hmm…You are comparing your life to a novel. I see. Confronting your self doubt, your inner demons… yes, you made a huge impact on me, Jack.

    Dear who: a difficult day, isn’t it. Yesterday I wrote to you before my bedtime that I will answer a question or two you had for me on a thread but I forgot what thread that was since we were hopping from thread to thread.

    Later:
    anita

    December 22, 2015 at 7:41 pm #90329
    jock
    Participant

    white Christmas! beautiful!

    December 23, 2015 at 1:17 pm #90415
    who
    Participant

    Well, this game seemed to go no where, meaning the positive game that I created. It was so easy, how hard is it too tell someone that you were really thinking about them. And ask them how are they doing? And all the replier had to do is talk about how they are, and pass it on… I’m a bit bum out! by it, because I feel no one really gave it a chance in the first place. It got derailed before it even started. ehhh! anyways I’m over it now!

    Jack and Anita….
    As for me, last night me and my mom bonded a little bit more. We talked, stayed up late watching this funny, but real good movie together.
    It was great!
    If you two ever have some time, try looking up (THE ROAD WITHIN) Youtube or Netflix and if so please give the movie a chance, meaning don’t knock it till you’ve seen the whole movie.

    And yes I do to agree with you jack, meaning our stories will get better and have a great ending!
    Words for Anita: who cares what people think! If you’re hot be yourself, regardless of size, shape, or color!
    Do what makes you feel happy! So take off that sweater and relax! not hot! and uncomfortable!

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 10 months ago by who.
    December 23, 2015 at 1:33 pm #90420
    Anonymous
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    Dear who:

    I thought, before reading your post above, that you will be disappointed your game did not happen. I take it less, way less to heart when my ideas don’t take off, when I care about a movie, for example, and someone puts it down and so forth. Such disappointments trigger that injury of long ago… like a child making a drawing and showing it proudly to a parent and the parent looks at it and goes, “so so” or maybe puts it down. That kind of injury. In this forum I started quite a few threads, who, that went nowhere and fast. I am okay about it.

    You are welcome, who, to not participate in any game or kind of game that I start, if it is too difficult for you (as your game has been for me) or not enjoyable… and life goes on….

    I googled The Road Within. i didn’t hear about it until I read it in your post above. Wiki says: “After his mother’s death, Vincent, a teenager with Tourette Syndrome, is enrolled in a behavioural facility by his father. While there he rooms with Alex a Brit with obsessive compulsive disorder, and meets Marie who is in recovery for an eating disorder.” Hilarious in that I, anita, have been diagnosed with Tourettes and OCD (started at 5 or 6 years old) and finally with an eating disorder later. So .. guilty of three out of three.

    This is interesting to me although I have a feeling the teenager with Tourettes probably blurts out obscenities which I never did (I “Only” had motor and vocal tics). I hope the depiction is not that stereotypical blurting obscenities and no tics, that will annoy me. (Is it?) Otherwise, it sounds like an interesting movie to see…

    And I am wearing shorts right now, sitting by the fire.

    anita

    December 23, 2015 at 3:05 pm #90447
    who
    Participant

    Yes the movie has both vocal outburst, and tics. So it might annoy you, but I believe that Tourettes is different for many. Just like the many different types of cancer and ways that if gets people!
    Sucks to read that you have or had this problem in your life!
    Hope all gets better Anita.

    But the movie is a slight comedy to, so I don’t know. All I can say is please watch it to the end.

    December 23, 2015 at 3:16 pm #90452
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Tourette is not that different for different people: motor tics, vocal tics and sometimes corprolalia (the outbursts of obscenities). Nothing else. Thanks for the recommendation to watch the movie.
    anita

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