Stephie,

It is very normal to have a moment like this, where the old path seems not to fit, not to bring satisfaction. However, the unknown of changing direction is also scary, it removes that safety net, like the shell cracking open on a baby bird, or a seed germinating. In the shell feels safe, but also confining.

As we question here, look more directly at how to grow a path that gives us that sense of inspiration, of appreciative joy, of friendship, first we have to come to accept that fear of the unknown. Not running from it, wanting it to be gone, wanting the net back, but simply accepting that the unknown could bring anything, and not knowing “the next thing” brings anxiety.

But then we can befriend that anxiety, sit with it, nurture ourselves, make space around it. Not let it pull us in, such as following a train down the tracks. Rather, we notice our fear, the feeling of groundlessness, and turn toward self nurturing. Letting go of the inner push to “find the answer, find the next step”, and make the nurturing the next step. Setting down the plans for the new path and the results of the old path, and just resting, relaxing. Perhaps hop in a tub with candles, meditate, do yoga, walk in nature, or anything that helps us relax, wake back up, reconnect with our inner happiness.

As we do this, the big questions are answered through little actions. Rather than “plotting a major, epic course change”, we naturally begin to notice where our unique skills can help ourselves and those around us, and move toward that, follow those heartfelt inspirations. That’s when we rest comfortably with who we are, and where we are. Be it web development, or any other career that you feel drawn toward. There will be Stephie, smiling, caring for herself and the world around her.

With warmth,
Matt

Steph,

For me, what I like to do feels better. Like, when I eat olives, I immediately know I do not like them. When I clean the dishes, I know that I like to, good intent, good result.

Consider self nurturing as a good next step. Rather than trying to build a new life because our present feels restless, we can make the present peaceful, and build a life that then reflects that peace.

From above:”Setting down the plans for the new path and the results of the old path, and just resting, relaxing. Perhaps hop in a tub with candles, meditate, do yoga, walk in nature, or anything that helps us relax, wake back up, reconnect with our inner happiness.”

If you don’t know what nurturing activities sing to you, try some of those! Or any others that seem to call to you. Museum? Gallery? Forest? Bathtub? Temple? What kind of space feels like a hug to you? Do that! Go there!

With warmth,
Matt

Stephanie, Yes I did start the business. Working on it right now 🙂 I’m creating a platform for women seeking to overcome perfectionism and inject more balance in their lives 🙂

A lot go the times, we fail to take bold action in our lives because we want things to be perfect.

I would post the website here. But I’m not sure if that’s allowed.

With Grace,
Krista

Lori, I can only imagine how you’re feeling. I think its important to have a mindset shift. You are fortunate to have food, shelter and access to the internet. It’s completely up to you to change the way that you think about yourself. I don’t know the details of your life. But I would suggest, start by analyzing the relationship with yourself. You are the most important person, don’t forget that or loose sight of that. Everyday is a new day and an opportunity to be grateful for yourself. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

I would also suggest, that you not focus on being the best LORI you can be. Not getting the old self back. The old is in the past, what you can control and where you have have immense change is on today. This very moment.

I hope this helps.

All the best!

With Grace,
Krista