Hi Paul

I’m sorry to hear about the break up. How are you coping with it?

I’ve actually experienced something similar in a past LDR relationship. Basically, people can be one way online, but a different way in person.

At the same time to some extent this can occur with dating in person too. Some people can behave in certain ways during the initial dating period but have difficulty with sustaining it. Some people might be great to date or be friends with but when it comes to living with them they’re unbearable.

People are complicated. Long distance relationships are also inherently risky because they often don’t work out. As long as you’re aware of the risks and willing to take that chance it’s fine. But it seems to have blindsided you a bit.

You shouldn’t blame yourself. It’s the nature of the situation and people in general. You gave it a shot and took a chance.

That’s incredibly brave and it makes sense for you to be brave and take a chance as those are core values for you as an adventurous person who loves travelling and having new experiences. Things won’t work out sometimes but that is okay.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏