Simple solution: quit smoking, get inspired about your work, stop browsing and instead focus on the reason why you want to become a manager, last and not least… find out what it is that your junior associates are doing that’s getting them that promotion and see if you can make some changes that’ll allow you to get that promotion! Some things are beyond your control, and some things aren’t. Take control of the things that are! If life’s a like a dusty closet, you can’t keep living on that dust now can you…!

Namaste..

Some people think engineer profession is a cool job… One thing to note: doesn’t matter what profession or life situation you’re in.. the people you envy so much have a set of problems on their own! you just don’t know it…. Be thankful for what you have~ If your heart tells you that you are meant to be a manager, then follow it…..

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Hey Hopeful,

I would like to ask if you will be happy if you become a manager?

Sometimes, we want things which we think will make us happy, but they don’t.

From what I’ve read from your post, I think it’s very difficult to get yourself motivated to do something when you are not passionate about it.
Plus, you say you are not the ambitious type. If you force yourself to get the manager position, the more you are going to resist it.
And that will lead to doing stuff that divert your attention like the ones you mention above and perhaps smoking.

What I suggest is to find something you love to do outside your work and start exploring.
Find things which you really enjoy doing and be happy in the moment.
You may find some ideas for a career switch and slowly change your career path.
Even if you don’t make a career switch, I think you will find that your life becomes more meaningful just by doing the things you love.

I said this because I’m a strong believer in passion. But do try it, I think it will change certain aspect of your life.

For the smoking issue, I think sharing it will be a good idea. Keeping secrets definitely creates more of the guilty feelings.
You can find some resource online not just to learn how to quit but also learn and make friends with those who have quit smoking.
I think I know someone who has a business that helps other quit smoking or something. If you need help me to contact him, let me know.

Usually when we continue to do things that we don’t feel good comes from beliefs on ourselves e.g. we think we are “not good enough”. Every time, we don’t feel good about ourselves, we automatically do our bad habit like smoking. So if I were you, I will find some resources to improve my self-esteem.

You can try Morty Lefkov’s website: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/#

It helps me to improve my self-esteem tremendously.

Hope what I share helps you! 🙂
Nerdy Creator

Smoke Rings and Other things.

Well, I’m a closet smoker too. Also a housecat but am also very extroverted. Clubs, friends, sports races, I run, Ha.. go figure.
I just don’t smoke when I’m out and about, in bars I use those vapor smokes, their really cool, very techno future.
I can go for long periods without it. Say 6 hours.
So you must know your limitations.

How long between smokes can you go. Then start with outings, clubs, events, for this amount of time.
Don’t feel guilty about the smoke, guilt will kill ya faster. ha. Why, ’cause it creates more stress, where at least the smoke declines it.

However, just start small and say Whoo hooo.. Alot, say Whooo Hooo often. ha, it helps too.

The job, mmm.. wish I was an engineer, whoa.. that would be so cool.
I say tutor students, excellent for them and you’ll feel encouraged by their valuing your knowledge.
And look awesome good on an application for management.

My friends mom had 3 smokes a day, died at 94.
Life is DNA and Attitude.
She smiled alot, read alot, played piano alot, always had a great joke to tell.
She was ……. mmm…… happy

But she said to me, “find one thing a day and talk to it, doesn’t matter if it’s your car or a pencil, smile and thank it” Than life will always be good