I am only going to address lonlieness. I am a total people person, and being alone, after being with people, is relaxing — be it work, outdoor activities with friends etc. What I find that helps me is if I have something, some event to look forward to. When I don’t have nothing to look forward to then, that is when I feel lonely. I always have something planned, and it just be a evening out with friend, or a play or a sport event. but have something to wake up to.